Did you ever uncomfortable for your child, who could ask aloud: "Why the lady so fat?" Or "Why did Uncle no hair on his head?" Most likely, yes.Kids tend to behave themselves, as if there are no rules of decorum and civility laws.
Consequently, the man himself - is the one who "cuts the truth-womb" in the face and says what he thinks.Is it right, whether such immediacy in the modern world?This will be discussed in this post.
How come immediacy
«We all were directly once" - the phrase sounds almost sad, for the simple reason that in adults there is little immediate.Childhood - while dreaming, faith in miracles, straightforwardness and openness."Direct" - it is quite normal for children, along with eternal hell "why" all around and active games.Note, however, that by eight to ten years of a child loses his sincerity.He starts to whisper to friends, to remain silent, even if they have questions, to keep something in mind and do not express their feelings.Why is that?Very simple.Parents, educators, and all surrounded by every kid gives him that the man himself - is bad.Be sincere - it means to be rude, rude, wrong.For a completely logical and direct question baby can pinch, slap, tell him to shut up.Adults recounting the child to be sincere and advised him to quickly learn the rules of this world.And therefore the immediacy perfectly eradicated and replaced by hypocrisy.
directly from adult
As said Elena Ermolaeva, spontaneity and naturalness - these sverhelitarny, and they can afford not all.It's true.Our templates and stereotyped world does not love the openness and honesty.We are much more natural to lie, tell a lie, to keep silent than to be direct.This is partly due to the childhood schooling.On the other hand, we now and then see the consequences of immediacy.People open it very simple, unpleasant, they are almost afraid and do not like.Imagine that we face will be to say what they think their superiors, tescham and mother, teachers, neighbors, parents, even?Do not think that all words will be insulting, it's just emotions.No, people fear the truth, but because the majority prefers to remain silent himself "in a rag."Direct people can be, and enjoy the lack of "ulterior motives", but hardly happy with how it is perceived by others.
downside
Many confuse spontaneity with quality backlinks.If spontaneity - it's natural, it does not imply anything bad against the neighbor, excessive simplicity, bordering on rudeness - this is a bad trait.
These qualities are difficult to mix.Direct person living honestly will never ask for too much and do not offend the person.She did not say a full lady "with immediacy": "You fat," but will not be able to hide their thoughts when asked about it.Direct people laughing, crying, behaves as it tells the heart, not societal attitudes.Ham, snapper frankly harmful to society, will not be anything good or bright people.
advantages of immediacy
So, to understand the concept, it can be concluded that such immediacy.But whether it is a useful quality?Do not hurt whether direct human behavior towards him company?Most likely not.Genuine, real feeling can not hurt or hinder.Rather, the person hurts himself when he can not say what's on his mind or heart.The man himself - is the one who develops tribute being themselves and finally, happiness.Be natural and immediate.
