Children often have very different fears - some eventually pass, and some stay for a long time, causing discomfort, even grown-up people.
What are the causes of these fears and the role of parents in their formation?
Psychologists call causes a lot of fear in children from the age manifestations - to injuries on the ground accidents frightening or confusing.However, one of the main sources of children's fears are improper upbringing and the attitude of parents, based on egoistic approach to child.
many parents perceive the child as a supplement only to ourselves, not as individuals, as a means, not an end.They think that the child is there for them as a symbol of a full and happy family, and do not understand their responsibility for the proper upbringing of the growing person.
When these parents once or do not want to mess with a child, they are trying to do everything so that the baby had not violated their comfort and their way of life - for example, to get the child to obey at any cost, even intimidating him.
If the child does not want to eat, sleep, swim, go to the kindergarten, to come home from a walk, calm down or just does not listen, selfish parents begin to inspire him all sorts of fears of a real or fictional dangers and threats.
often mom and dad angry or frightened kid drunken uncle, the police, gypsies, terrible child animals and other "real horrors" that supposedly will take away the crumbs rebellious, will carry it, steal, and so on.
as supernatural and mystical act scared babayka, beech, ghosts, aliens, houses, all sorts of fairy tales characters (like Baba Yaga and the gray wolf) and the like "mysterious phenomenon".Often accompanied by his threats adults, to strengthen the impression, different sound effects, depicting the steps creaking noises and scary voice issued approaching horror.
course, selfish parents momentary goal can be achieved through such threats - a frightened child obey, but this action of "horror stories" does not end there - the fear is gradually being introduced into the subconscious of the child and cripple its psyche.
It is particularly dangerous to scare the kid all manner of otherworldly horrors, the existence of which he could not deny or understand.Here the imagination of the child begins to draw him a truly horrific pictures.And if the fear of real things (dogs, humans, etc.) usually goes with age, the fear of the unknown and the supernatural (ghosts, aliens, houses, etc.) is often in adults.
a child is constantly being bullied children might suffer - to begin to stutter, enuresis ill or neurotic, totally subordinate to the promptings of their behavior they fear.
Another source and agent of childhood fears today is TV.And this reason is also linked to the selfishness of parents who prefer to give children themselves and "take" their uncontrolled television viewing.
One of the main factors of the appearance of "telestrahov" modern cartoons are full of monsters, mutants, dead, robots, strange and terrible creatures, wars and numerous scenes of violence.
Recently, the number of violence in children's cartoons has increased significantly, and often it generates not only counter-violence, but also fear.And sometimes like a child is not afraid of a cartoon character, but on a subconscious level, it still can cause fear.Aggression, hysteria and fear can also cause negative emotions that are overcrowded children's TV program.
Most adults try to take the child's TV, the baby not to disturb them.Thus from an early age the child often looks not only cartoons, but adult films and programs, it is not suitable for him.
Thus, the parents shift the responsibility for raising the child on television, and everything I saw a toddler let deep roots in his psyche, causing phobias and negative reactions.
It is therefore important to remember that parental attention, responsibility, a healthy environment and proper upbringing of the child in the family will help to protect the baby from the emergence of many fears to save his sanity.After consumption of the child "spiritual food" should be selected and controlled no less carefully than physical power.
