your child breaks toys, parses and tearing apart everything that comes under his arm, likes to destroy the turrets of the designer to push mud pies out of the sand and fight with other children cobbled together snowmen?
Such behavior of a young child - is not a reason to panic about the parents' aggression and the tendency to destruction. "What is it, and how to deal with it?
most commonly young children behave in this way not because they want to annoy or make spite adults.
Once in the world around us things the child becomes a researcher, and it is the only way to understand how it works, and what it is - is to try to analyze every single thing and see what's inside her.Kid still does not understand what is "good" and "bad", but he likes to experiment with things.
In order for your child to explore the world and ispytavala this joy, however, did not destroy the entire house, and learned the accepted norms of conduct, it is necessary, on the one hand, to provide him with a sufficient field for "research" and on the other, remove valuable and fragileobjects away from baby.
Here are some simple tips how to behave with the child, prone to break and dismantle all:
1. How and what to forbid?
course, a small child does not yet understand not only what is "bad" and "good", but that the broken thing can not always be repaired.However, the baby is quite able to grasp and understand the parents' reaction to his behavior, because it is very important how you feel about his actions.
The most important thing - your patience, a willingness to engage in dialogue with the child and, in spite of the hardness and sometimes compromise.Barring something, be sure to explain to your child why this or that thing can not touch or break, for example, because it is too fragile, or someone else, or she - not for games or thing is very dear to you, and you are angry, if it breaks down.
However, it is important not to overdo it with the number of prohibitions, or constantly bumping into prohibitions, the child could no longer restrain himself and rebel, begins to break down and spoil everything you have out of spite.
Therefore, let the baby will be free from the restrictions of land - for example, with their toys let him do what he wants.Then it will show where isssledovaniyu craving for peace, and a healthy curiosity destructive impulses that children are part of the creative process.
2. What permit?
Despite the fact that you might be a pity to spoil a new or expensive toy, allow the child to change it according to his own will.Doll haircut, dismantle the machine and so on.
course, older children need to make sure that the ratio to the toys did not develop into unhealthy consciously expressing certain sadistic tendencies.From a certain age, you can bring up the children, and the humane treatment to toys, as if they were alive.
It should be remembered that the power of the toy, the ability to deal with them on their own often helps the child feel like a master of things, more mature and responsible, less dependent and subordinate to adults.
So, within reasonable limits should not inhibit the destructive impulses of the child in dealing with toys, allowing him to express his emotions accumulated in the gaming space.However, even with disassembled and broken toys baby often willing to play, so they should not be thrown away immediately.
Besides, bumping into pieces of toys, the child begins to understand the extent of their responsibility for their actions and sometimes regret that something has broken or destroyed.
3. child asks attention?
often loudly breaking and disassembling things, the kid wants to draw parents' attention to themselves and their problems.If the adult is annoying behavior, the child finds it the most effective way to demand attention.
Then the destructive behavior of the child - just his way of telling you that he is bored, jealous, suffering, I would like to play with you that it is bad or sad.Do not scold him for that much and do not induce a sense of guilt - he expressed his feelings in a manner which at his age it seems most appropriate.
Show your child that you understand it and are willing to pay attention to it as soon as you can, try to solve his problems, but let him know that unhappy with the way he chose to get your attention.Let learns that to my mother play with him or listened to him, not necessarily to break things.
