Love, sympathy, desire - feeling rather strange.They bring into our life the adrenaline and feeling the brightness, saturation, and experience the fullness of emotions.However, they may carry both positive and negative.And cause great joy or infinite sadness.
first reaction
familiar picture, is not it: he escorted her home and met at the door with flowers;calls to the cinema or a concert;invites you to sit in a cafe, wander the quiet autumn park?Try as it might, but ... And then the question arises: "What if she does not reciprocate?"
very first thing that a person experiences in those moments - an insult.Boys are not less vulnerable and emotionally vulnerable than the fairer sex.And the experience as deeply and strongly.Who thinks it is - a manifestation of weakness, he is deeply mistaken.Upset, sad about the failure - a natural human reaction.But panic and depressed young man fall is definitely not worth it.What to do?What if she does not reciprocate?This is what we will talk today in detail.
to the bottom
So, the first thing you should do when subside first wave of emotions - a sober assessment of the situation.Try to determine the cause of indifference, to find out whether it was the consequence of any actions and deeds of Man or was the original?What if she does not reciprocate because of the mistakes and miscalculations boys?Of course, try to rectify the situation, to make amends.Maybe the girl should be given the time, she was able to cool down, to rethink, reconsider their attitude to the fan.And then everything very slowly adjusted.In this case, the guy should ease the onslaught of a few to step aside, and then gradually re-start the courtship.Another question - "What if she does not reciprocate at all, initially."In this case, the situation can really be desperate.
Psychological setting: not to dwell on the problem!
Remember the adage: "Fight fire with fire '?So try to follow it.In the end, pretty cuties around a lot.And certainly spurned admirer like many of the opposite sex.Therefore, rather than puzzle over the question "how to get the girl of reciprocity", it is better to direct energy in a different direction.However, the rush is not worth.Let the unhappy Romeo depart from the sad thoughts, clean feathers.And gently, unobtrusively, discreetly (remember the water and milk to which blow) begins to establish new relationships.But just do not do it to spite someone.Or to cause jealousy last pass.To sense from such a "wedge" is not.Everything should start with a new sheet.
«Learn to control yourself ...»
What in any case should not be done if the woman does not reciprocate:
1. do without public jealousy.When the girls of hysteria still somehow forgivable, then certainly for the guys they are excluded.The subtlety of mental organization and ladies nervousness - not the same thing!
2. Deliberate scorn, indifference and neglect is also undesirable.They provide vulnerability Man, emphasize that the past holds it in his hands.Alas, here, and the children themselves, but even more so, "former" and its surroundings can be plenty to laugh at him.But who needs it?Just try to interfere with the less often capricious lady, and if the meeting took place - behave with dignity, restraint, but naturally.And in general - read the classics, there's it!
«The less we love a woman ...»
Yes, all the same great Pushkin!Womanizer, he was excellent, read a woman's heart like an open book.What is a classic piece of advice?She ceased to reciprocate?Note this phrase - the keyword here "stopped."It is a signal to skip past it should not be.Try to talk to the lady of the heart, to find out what she was displeased.And, if possible, discuss the controversial points, so that they will no longer be the sticking point.Another positive point the conversation - if the old relationship is not resumed, with the emergence of the new guy did not come on the same rake again.Play on girlish pride and jealousy "admirer retired" too can.But if well understood the nature of his beloved priverednitsy, he cherishes it, and wants to return its location.To do this, we calculate the steps as an experienced chess player, and to play games.
We are "just friends"?
Another option, as between man and a woman appears on the basis of personal conflict - when a young lady sees his cavalier purely knight, a friend, almost a creature of the same sex.With such a young man, she often consults, talks about the problems of divided feelings.It may even cry on his chest or peck on the cheek, saying goodbye.And the hugs, kisses and caresses other plans it, alas, are not included.What to do?Make it clear: yes, you are ready to become her confessor and counselor.However, strictly limited to that role and do not intend to agree only on increasing.
