Did you know that 55% of the information we receive when communicating by sight (body language, eyes), and 38% through hearing (tone, volume, tone of voice, speed of speech)?
This means the information load of the words themselves is only 7%.
very same that you, being the object of attention - whether interview tête-à-tête in hiring or speech to a large audience - is required to be effective in communicating at all levels.
How to develop your language skills?This is a private conversation.
But in regard to the language of the body, just enough to just avoid the most common mistakes.
Use instead, confident gestures.And you will see how the situation will turn in your favor.
Here 8 most common mistakes , which could have a negative impression on your buddy or listeners.
Try to avoid them, and you will be convinced of how unpretentious change radically change the situation.
Error № 1. Avoid eye contact.
you read a piece of paper or computer screen, instead of reaching out to the audience?
And when speaking tete a tete looking away on their feet or on the table?
Have you ever noticed that you look over your shoulder one person talking?This evidence
your nervousness, lack of confidence, lack of preparation.enough
winning technique: with eyes fixed on the audience.
Look into the eyes of the audience of 80-90% of the time.
Most speakers paid too much time lying in front of them view their records, slides, tables.
And if not betray glance standing underneath the table.
change this behavior can quite easily: you just go and watch the video of his speech.But
confident businessmen, trying to convey to the audience or that idea, look them straight in the eye.
Error № 2. Lock: placing an object between you and the audience.
placing an object between himself and the audience, you make another common mistake.
If you stand in the pulpit or a chair, talking to someone because of a computer monitor - a typical example of the lock, which prevents the necessary contacts.Even
folder lying on the table, can break contact and create distance.
Crossed arms - is also an example of the lock.
winning technique: to remain "open".
Keep your hands apart, palms - up staring at the ceiling.
Take away the physical barriers between themselves and the audience.
Error № 3. fidget, wiggle, twitch.
This shows that you are nervous, insecure and unprepared.
Stop twitching.Will fidgeting and twitching - it will not bring any good.
Imagine for a moment a top manager of a computer company, which is to inform the main investors of the shift timing of the product.
In fact, the manager and his team have everything under control, and they have made the appropriate conclusions from what has happened, but his body language suggests otherwise.
His main problem is that by informing the investor, it swings back and forth.It
- evidence of uncertainty and lack of control.
avoid career suicide a manager can learn to move intelligently.
And then, completing the next meeting, the investor is confident that the situation is under control.
Error № 4. Hands in pockets, or pressed to imagine.
If you will keep your hands stiffly with him or zasunesh in their pockets, would give the impression that you not interested in what you are not sure what to talk about.
Or - you nervous, no matter what you're feeling really.
simple solution: take out his hands out of his pockets, and use them for meaningful, confident gestures.
join hands above the waist - that is a gesture that shows comprehensive thinking and makes the listener believe the speaker.