Latin «familiaris» means "family", "home".Hence the "familiarity".The meaning has changed over time.By the beginning of XVIII century in the Russian language, the word takes on a negative connotation.The Latin root is losing its former importance.Familiarity means are now inappropriate, intrusive ease swagger.
life of each divided into one that is open to all, and the one that remains behind closed doors within the family or close friends.The person belongs to the inner, inner circle, it has the right to some liberties in communication.A close person has the right to give you unsolicited advice, to point out some deficiencies, such as clothing or appearance.For example, the mother gives her daughter growing up advice on what kind of clothes is preferred in a particular situation.Familiarity is it?In most cases, no.After all, a daughter, too, can help my mother with the choice of clothes, focusing on the taste.
It is one thing when a close friend or family member will advise something to adjust to the style of dress, and quite another - when unfamiliar people slapping you on the shoulder and say something like, "Dude, you do not fit this tie/ jacket / sweater. "Familiarity is it?Sure.
notion that familiarity is and what is not, over time, of course, change as moral standards, family life.For example, now in most families children do not call parents to "you", it was quite natural for another hundred years ago.If you pull back even further, you can find funny determine that there is familiarity.This, for example, describes the Saltykov -Schedrin in "Poshehonsky antiquity."The young man greeted, handed the lady is looked after, the hand - it was described as "unacceptable familiarity."
But back to today.There are things that can be discussed by unfamiliar people or colleagues - the weather, politics and so on.And obviously there are issues that a normal person is unlikely to wish to discuss in public, and are unlikely to tolerate interference in the sphere of anyone party.And in Russia decided to strangers and unfamiliar people turned to each other "you", going on a less formal "you" better acquainted and obtaining a resolution of the interlocutor.
familiarity person does not want to recognize the existence of these rules.It decouples and too laid-back to talk to.This sometimes seems to him that his familiarity - this is what is dictated by love and care.Not true.He is largely indifferent to the source itself, and his reaction.He really wants to voice his, the only correct point of view, to impose on all its the only acceptable rules.He did not hesitate to order that puts the interlocutor in an awkward position by asking very personal questions, giving unsolicited advice.Easy going on "you" even when dealing with a man older than himself, not to mention about the same age, it does not erase the borders and creates new problems in communication.After all, it is necessary to answer, and the ease of "familiarity" is not acceptable to all.
familiarity person simply ill-mannered.Sometimes it is not hopeless, and quite amenable to education.If he come upon the boundaries of acceptable and what is permitted, then it can get quite a nice companion.
