Do we love eccentrics, those who constantly drew the attention of strange and incomprehensible actions?Hardly, rather, they make fun of them, find them amusing and even feared.Adequate people, as opposed to those who constantly falls out of the norms and standards of communication, much nicer and safer.
very word is of Latin origin.Adaequare - "equate, identified".Consequently, the appropriate people - those whose behavior and way of expressing thoughts and feelings are acceptable, correspond to the situation, circumstances, environment.But do not confuse this concept with conformism, opportunism, mediocrity.The ability to anticipate the reaction of the interlocutor, to observe generally accepted standards, to restrain undesirable for this situation displays of emotion - this is the result not only of good education.It is also an indicator of intelligence and spiritual development.Why are we afraid of the insane?Because I do not know what to expect from them.Adequate people, on the contrary, quite predictable, and it does not mean that they are boring.In many cases (especially in business communication), when we expect to get some reaction to our words and actions are unacceptable manifestation of eccentricity.Imagine what you would feel if a saleswoman at the store in response to your request to weigh 300 grams of sausage or show blouse size 44, became suddenly disrobe and grabbed his head with tears?Surely you would have been uncomfortable.
Of course, history is littered with examples of vivid, unusual behavior.Suffice it to recall the famous shoe Khrushchev.And not always necessary to speak only what is expected of us.It probably is not of the essence, but about the form.Adequate people follow the convention style of communication adopted to the situation in the society.However, because the etiquette of different countries and nations is not only conventions, but also outside of the permissible, you should pay special attention to this, if we are a business or a personal meeting with the representatives of other nations.
Often, what for us is obvious and requires no further comment, for our foreign guests or companions may seem strange or even offensive.For example, for Russian natural to visit each other without warning, just "drop in the glass of tea."But the Germans in such a situation you do not understand and even be outraged by your impudence.They decided to prevent and pre-arrange a visit.Such examples are many, but not features of the national etiquette we now occupy.
Although mentality very significant impact on all spheres of human life.Take, for such a thing as self-esteem, that is not overstated and understated not corresponding to reality.But here, those same differences creep.If the Russian or Asian modesty is considered to merit, then, say, American or Spaniard would not hesitate in the most favorable light to present all their accomplishments, embellishing them and emphasizing once again.Very much depends on the education of the behaviors adopted in the family.But all this is also affected by the existing system of values.
And they determine whether the appropriate relationship will develop two people.Will the group members comply with their roles, mutual expectations, rules, and depends on many factors.One thing is certain: that the standards are respected, they must be clear and obvious.