For honeymooners preparation for the wedding is always stressful, very important and at the same time interesting period.Catch need many things: choose outfits, rings, venue of the celebration, make a guest list, menu, think about entertainment ... A whole mess!But if the wedding is planned in the best tradition, the preparatory phase must undergo the traditional rites, such as courtship and engagement.Tell me more how the courtship of the bride.
For hundreds of years it is an important ritual, which aims to obtain the consent of the relatives of the bride at a wedding.Over time, this ceremony has not lost its meaning, and it is popular these days.Consider, for starters, how the courtship from Russian.
Matchmaking in Russia
Selected matchmakers had to know how the suit, all the signs, rules.Their goal was to obtain the consent of the parents of the young girl to the fact that she married a young man for whom they asked.It also happened that the girl did not even know who to woo her, who will be her future husband.The main thought parental consent.
There was all this: the bride's parents to come "bidder" with matchmakers.They could be his parents, other relatives and friends.The conversation began with "empty" after only a few visits was given effective response.Reject the proposal could be immediately, but agreed after the first visit and no one gave - it was considered indecent.In case of refusal matchmakers, leaving, they closed the doors back, believed that so long she did not marry.In the event that the bride liked the bride's parents took out of his hands bread, cut for all present.After that appointed day Handshake - time will discuss the next steps for the organization of the wedding.
Another option matchmaking in Russia
Specially invited matchmakers (relatives - the godfather, uncles, brothers) who know how to be held matchmaking, came to the house of the bride.Fearing the evil eye, matchmakers say in the house after sunset.Since the abstract in a conversation gradually came to the question of whether she agrees to marry a "candidate"?If the bride did not mind, she took a broom and began to sweep towards the furnace, so symbolically expressed affection for matchmakers.In case of refusal of revenge had toward the door, as if to drive them out.
How is the suit from Russian wedding day
This interpretation is likely indicative of courtship, a comic character.Scenarios of this event a great variety.By the way, this type of matchmaking is different in that it takes place on the day of the wedding or the wedding as bride price.
essence of the event: bride and groom choose their matchmakers.On the part of the groom's Matchmaker (Matchmaker) trying to redeem the bride, her in-laws are trying to "sell" Woman as expensive as possible.In this situation, it sounds saying: "You have the goods, we - the merchant."Groom with matchmakers, relatives, friends, redeem the bride.From the bride's waiting his matchmaker who tries "not to give" the beloved, fills the price, arranges various competitions.With jokes and rhymes groom buys the bride takes her away from the table, and then continue working together fun.
Select matchmaker in this case must be carefully.It should have a groovy cheerful character, loud-be, a glib tongue.This entertaining version of courtship should take place in a relaxed fun atmosphere.
modern courtship.The arrival of the groom
Now consider how the courtship (his first version) in our day.You need to come to the event very seriously.If young adhere to moral values, traditions, find it necessary to receive the blessing of the parents, then it is necessary to woo.The first young man came into the house of the bride.Best of all, if before his arrival, the bride prepared mentally parents that the house was friendly atmosphere.The groom should look your best to make the best impression.Young man presents a bouquet of flowers and a girl, and her mother.This shows respect for etiquette.Bride groom must provide parents, starting with his father.Then, in a casual conversation groom talks about his feelings towards their daughters, committed to the future plans and asks for her hand and heart.Then the word of the parents.If they disagree, the father unites young, joined their hands.If the groom came to visit one, the meeting should not be long.
return visit.Getting parents
How is the suit on?Now, the bride gets a return visit.Mother of the bride, she must present a bouquet.Also, as a gift you can present a good cake or candy.After meeting with the parents first about feelings should start talking the groom, talk about joint plans, ask for parental consent.With the positive outcome of the case is an arrangement where all meet together (children and parents) for a discussion of the wedding.Although nowadays marriage agencies operate fully trained wedding events, in this case, parents need to negotiate a payment for their services.If the parents live very far away, the young should send them pictures of their half, to ask permission to marry.
Engagement
After courtship, many young couples organize their engagement.In the evening, the closest relatives, best friends.Publicly bride and groom to announce their closest people to the intention to marry.Bride in the gift received an engagement ring that will carry it until the day of the wedding.The ring is passed from generation to generation, not to be confused with a wedding, it has a slightly different meaning.Time extending from the engagement to the wedding itself, is a period for reflection.The last time all you need to carefully weigh and consider whether you are ready to lose their freedom to live the rest days of the elect.
How does the matchmaking Armenians
Previously, parents boys by the bride turned to a relative of his who knew the family of the girl.Mediatrix (midzhnord kin) must be in negotiations to achieve parental consent to marry.For negotiations to be successful, during a visit to the post at the groom's house hung a large spoon or hairbrush - sherep.Once the parents agreed with the mediator, we were planning a formal courtship.It passes in a few days.
girl's home sent matchmakers (patvirak) who knew how the ritual of courtship.They were selected from male relatives on the father, he was a mediator with them, in some cases, the mother of the groom.The girl's parents knew in advance about the arrival of the matchmakers.The conversation began in allegorical form: we had to take a handful of ashes from your fireplace, to mix with ours;of your lamp to take a spark for our and the like.Most often, parents respond that they need time to think.Agreeing once considered indecent.Sometimes, the matchmakers had to visit the family of the bride and two and three times.Only after his father's consent to lay the table, all together drinking wine, which brought the two men.Prior to that, guests are not accepted to treat, it was believed that if you give bread Swat have to pay and a daughter.
Matchmaking today
How should undergo courtship of the bride in Armenia today?In the role of matchmakers often serve men.If they are counting on the agreement, then carry treats: candy, cognac, wine.In the case where there is no certainty, matchmakers come with empty hands.Sam rite is exactly the same old traditions.The only difference between weighty modern courtship - is that necessarily asks the consent of the bride.The wedding will not take place if the girl against.The bride's parents, as in the old days, the first time did not give consent, the matchmakers have to go several times.In the end, with a positive answer hit on his hands.The official conspiracy called Hosk Arnel, PAC ktrel (to fasten the floor, turn the bread).As a pledge made to present the bride of any gift, it is often a gold ring.
Betrothal
Once matchmaking passes, at a preliminary stage before the wedding is held betrothal (nshandrek).Time is assigned in advance to the league or visit the father of the groom to the bride's parents.On the day nshandreka father sends to the bride's house a variety of food, house invites relatives, priests and musicians.Then, the entire delegation took a lot treats and wedding gift for the bride (Nshan) are sent to the bride's house.The rite begins with a greeting toasts, wishes of happiness young.The priest blesses treats and wedding gift, and then transmits it to the groom to the bride.As Nshan is any jewelry: earrings, rings, bracelets, usually silver.
