«My grandfather said," I have the desire to buy a house but do not have the opportunity.I have the opportunity to buy a goat, but I have no desire. "So here's to ensure that our desires always coincide with our opportunities. "All learned toast from the film "Prisoner of the Caucasus"?From this it follows that the grandfather wanted to buy a house, but had no chance.I wonder what has led to the possibility of a mismatch of desire?We transported back in time and see.Great-grandfather is experiencing is in tense oppressive unpleasant psychological state, breaks down on his wife and children, in the eyes of anxiety, frustration, hopelessness and even despair.All it says about the bleakness of detachment from the outside world.He is not here and now, and in some fantasy world where dreams come true his long-awaited home."What is it, Grandpa?" - We ask, and he says the Water words: "Oh, my life - tin!Oh it in the swamp!I live like a toadstool. "- "Why?It is without a home, and life is not a life? "-" No, my home life - another disappointment.In my death I ask blame my life.On the home is not so bad as you think.In fact, everything is much worse!My whole life has been a rehearsal for a concert under the name "Home".Concert I will not hear. "- "Grandpa, do not worry because" - we speak with and hear in response: "Come pedal until you have given."Santa lifts the the bench and threatens us with a stick.From him comes aggression, both from a wounded wolf.We look at his great-grandfather, and state that it is their psychological attitudes put himself in an impossible position.He can not easily dissociate themselves from the idea of owning a home.For him, the house is too important, and it can not ignore the failure of his plan.In addition, he has no desire to get out of this situation, and he can not find a way out.
After this sketch of frustration, I think, it became clear his essence.Frustration - (from the Latin frustratio - «cheating", "failure", "a vain expectation," "plans disorder") - is a negative psychological state of a person caused by failure to meet some important requirements for him.When our plans crumble when towards the goal of insurmountable obstacles, and we were strongly motivated to achieve the objective, there is a state of frustration.In other words, frustration - this is when our desires do not coincide with our opportunities.There is a state of oppressive stress, frustration, anger, anxiety, anger, feelings of hopelessness and despair.
for frustration is typical not just dissatisfaction, and the extreme dissatisfaction.For example, a person could not perform during the day, what is conceived in the morning or do not have time to have lunch.Frustration occurs when the level of dissatisfaction is not bearable for humans.All my friends back in the distant eighties son is not so much wanted to go to college, many did not want to serve in the army.What is feared is what happened - failed in the exams.I remember we watched the TV series "Seventeen Moments of Spring," and he went and hanged himself in the bath.Hard to believe, but the cause of this terrible act has served as the importance that he attached to enroll in college.Naturally, he could do so only man hardened "battle of life" too emotional irritability, with undeveloped volitional qualities.Parents did not prepare his son for the ills of life and ability to overcome difficulties.On top of everything, the guy probably sat complex "do not like me."Man, confident that his love does not enter into the loop.
If we just promise to buy a child a toy that he wanted to have a strong and deceived, he is likely to react to insult, anger and other negative emotions.Many people are in a state of frustration, to respond to the situation as children.When the situation is not solved, there comes a second wave - a departure from the cruel reality of the world and wrong in the world of dreams and fantasies.Frustrated man out in the dead of protection from the outside world or hurting himself.Men go to the binge or spree.Women seize upon and begin to sweet revenge on her husband.They come in a compartment
man and a woman.The woman opened the heart: "I think my husband is cheating on me.The Hitcher sighs: "I think my wife too - And let them take revenge?" Revenge.A man trying to fall asleep.Fellow traveler: "I would in your place would have revenge and revenge !!!" After a vengeance usually go away in apathy and depression ("That's going to die, will know!").Many women have a morbid desire to shop.How chocolate to set the mood to buy clothes or makeup means that women unnecessarily.
classic example of the frustration is the desire to win provincials Moscow.At home he was the first guy in the village, and, having arrived in Moscow, sees such Uhar in the capital of a dime a dozen.He used to take his high rank as something natural and self-evident.The harsh reality upsets all his plans.Self-esteem falls through the floor.Life says the candidate for success: "Remember, your place in the bucket!" The man is disappointed and gets into the iron embrace of frustration.
frustration aim is to demonstrate the inconsistency."Leave me alone, because I have the same failure and futility," - says frustration.Thus always to blame others.Most fall into the arms of frustration emotional people, fanatical following to his goal.Since the purpose of the incarnation for it is of great importance, there is excess energy potential.The purpose of man is transformed into an eloquent example of the idealization.Equilibrium forces immediately set to work, will drive him into a state of frustration.Man "I want to break down, to destroy and to tear apart."It is in the power of negative emotions from anger and anger to helplessness and despair.
Frustration - a serious lesson for the equilibrium of forces.Apparently, the man has not learned the lessons of previous aimed at devaluation of its importance and significance of their desires and needs.Life Lessons follow, as a rule, on the rise.Each subsequent lesson is more difficult last.Status of frustration, on the basis of its complexity, can be attributed to one of the most significant lessons of the equilibrium of forces of the universe.Sometimes frustration is protracted, when with disappointments and frustrated expectations can not be managed for months and years.
paradox, but a source of frustration can become a celebration of the New Year, which is associated with expectation of a miracle.For the sake of "patron of the Year" are covered with elegant tables, preparing gifts.From the New Year expect a new life and a new happiness, and receive a heavy hangover after a long binge.The result - in the form of sheer frustration, depression and frustration.
Overcoming frustration made the elimination of excessive importance of what was the cause of this condition.It uses self-hypnosis, self-persuasion and self-regulation.In sport, for example, the most commonly used four types of mental self-control: autogenous training, psihoreguliruyuschaya training, psihomyshechnaya and ideomotor training.
As is well known, it is better to remove the cause than to deal with the investigation.Frustration destroys fate, injure a person, sometimes forever throwing man out of the cycle of life.Parents, knowing how to dire consequences resulting frustration, are obliged to bring to life a well-trained child.It should be clearly understood that life - it's just a circus in which various clowns will try to manipulate its understanding of the importance and try to drag the arena.The child should be good to learn that his place in the audience, not the circus life.He has a clear idea of what life is really important and what is vanity, tinsel, show-off and play in the "slope".The little man has to realize that everything in this life can not be controlled by them.Every human being - its area of competence in which it is not an extra, but a direct participant.This is - the parents, spouse, children, close friends, colleagues at work.Nowhere to hang himself because of the earthquake in Turkey or the tsunami in Indonesia.If you were not able to reach the goal, it is not fatal.Teach your child that he realized - happiness - is the path to the goal, not the goal itself.Tell the child this beautiful parable.
dog persistently chasing its own tail, exhausted, stopped the persecution and lay down to rest, curled up.In this position, he suddenly found the tail under his very nose, and greedily grabbed it with his teeth, but immediately released, wincing."We have to draw the conclusion - he said to himself, - that the pursuit of owning sweeter."
