strictness of the quality of the individual - the tendency to monitor closely the quality and accuracy of actions performed without deviating from the sample.
Austerity - a resonance with the heart of another person.Austerity is limited by love.Once a man break the moderate, reasonable limits of punishment, and its actions will be called differently - rigidity, harshness or cruelty.Love - limiter rigor.A loving person can be tough, harsh, and even more cruel.The right to be strict to be earned.I once asked a seven-year son: - You know why I punish you?- Yes, - he said.- Maybe I should not have done?- I asked.- No, - he said, - you are doing right.You're punishing me because I love that I did not do themselves or others badly.The child knew that Dad nakazanie- is a manifestation of love.
gives the right to the severity of mutual love.If you look at the severity of broader, not only as the education of children, a person can become severe if he wants other people to goodness and happiness.However, this is not enough.I made a reservation at the expense of mutual love.You can not punish indifferent to you people.For example, while the subordinates will feel respect and sympathy to the head, while the location is not valuable to them, and the removal of it unpleasant, until all forms of punishment are perceived not as rigor, but as a tyranny and harshness.Punishment without mutual sympathy undermines the authority of the head and shows that it is poorly understood what was happening.For example, AVSuvorov had a personal relationship with each of the fifty thousand soldiers.He approached the soldiers and asked, "Well, son recovered?" Or, "Paul, what they write from Ryazan?" The soldiers loved their leader, and his strictness perceived only as a desire to bring them home alive and unharmed.At the same rigor should be exercised not to man and his actions.
Love and severity occur simultaneously.Often parents want to conceited children enjoy them.A selfish desire to receive pleasure from the child deprives parents of rigor.They are afraid to tell him the word across, suffer all his obscene act.When a man really likes to show his heart requires a strong and unwavering rigor relative to the object of love, speak openly makes him the truth.This is the real rigor, infused with love.Head, loving subordinates, can be strict with them.His team iron discipline precisely because he loves, appreciates people and behave with them strictly, for fear that they would not have done myself troubles, not marred his reputation and did not lose the right to work in this team.
There is a surprising pattern: the more one loves, the more severe it is an object of love.Why is this happening?Because the severity wants the object of love was true that love and appreciate her more than anything else was afraid to lose her.For example, the more a father loves his son, the tighter he feels about him.Wishing the good son, he feared that he would not deteriorated under the influence of the street.A loved one, showing the severity soaked love has an incredibly strong impact on the other person, who, in turn, loves him.But in order to have the power of austerity, it is necessary to truly love.
Unlike demands, manifested in giving jobs, the severity is detected when receiving the result.If demands are asked "what to do", the rigor interested in the question "how to".For example, demanding says: "We need to deliver a quarterly report to the 15th of the month following the reporting one.As part of the reports should have the following form ... Responsible agencies ... "fifteenth day pass, and the report is not submitted it to ten days later.If you close your eyes - so it's not rigor.When reprimanded, he threatened to deprive bonuses broke and asked to alter the balance - hence, showed the severity.
Unlike hardness, rigor, as we have said, filled with love and respect to the people, it is more soft and warm.Austerity can even be fun, if the head in comic form makes "a beating" the slave of the past failures in work.She rarely comes to actual punishment, limited reminders and threats.In cheerless rigidity of character, sense of humor, it does not shine.Rigidity is cool, calm and serious.By its threats must be treated with care, for them, as a rule, should be the implementation.With educational purpose stiffness can make strong physical observations.From the rigidity of people run, and the severity of the hold.
strictness in the family must be specialized.For example, a woman, if you do not want to grow up mama's son, weak-willed, spineless and unhappy man should not bring up her son by herself.It is the prerogative of the father.The severity of the boy's relative suggests the possibility of mistakes.The boy must learn to overcome difficulties and be ready for testing.It is important not how many times you fall, but how you get up.The man built an understanding that the boy needed skills to overcome life's obstacles.Like the dolls, he said, no matter how much his life is not bent, with the same force back to its original joyful, balanced state.The mother can not understand the tricks of the life sciences, and begins to spoil her son, that is, it makes it easier to set the father of the test.Such a pity it causes harm to the child and destroys his fate.Women's nature can not calmly watch as the son is going through for the implementation of tasks entrusted to the father.Therefore, the mother should stay away from the education of his son.To love and care for him - please, but to educate his son - this is the responsibility of his father.By giving his son the opportunity to absorb the lessons of life, the father thereby gives his mind to the opportunity to mature and "grow a muscle."There is an anecdote: Mother decided from now on to keep his son in severity.
- Where are you going?- She asks.- Where do I want to.- And when you get back?- When pleases.- Well, just look, not a minute later.
If the father spoils her son, then he spoiled his wife, so it lacks rigor in the relationship with her husband.And here there is an interesting phenomenon.Be truthful with her husband - is to love it.When a woman loves her husband, she can be strict with him, and then the husband is strict with his son.Austerity is not love lives.In the absence of love can only "get" children and subordinate petty chicanery and nothing but rejection does not receive a response.The girl definitely brings mom.Austerity for the girl shown in the process of training its proper behavior, explaining all the subtleties and nuances of interpersonal relationships.
In strictness has its own secret doors.If you know where the key is for them, it becomes clear that her husband was strict with his wife outside, and she to him - internally.Internal rigor much stronger foreign policy.Therefore, it is inappropriate rhetorical question "Who's the Boss?" - His wife keeps her husband in "tight" rein.And the strength of its rigor comes from love.When my wife loves her husband, she takes responsibility for it women.Should he do immoral, unconscionable, in short, is not true, as the wife immediately uncover the essence of his malicious act and show that in our family, this will not.The woman acts in such situations very decisively, courageously and relentlessly.Men prefer to avoid such a situation, hard-hitting for them, because are afraid to see my wife in that condition.Therefore, the wife could easily be strict with the education of her husband, provided that she has the power of love to him.
