death of a loved one - a very sad event.It leaves an indelible imprint on the mind of everyone who loved and respected the deceased.At such moments, any keenly felt, even discreet hypocrisy in the words of people who sympathize with the grief.But it is not always a sign of indifference, many simply lost and do not know how to find the right words of condolence on the death.
General recommendations
If you have been intimately familiar with the deceased, do not pull, waiting for an invitation to the funeral or letters from his relatives.Those grieving may forget
send news of the death, or simply do not know all the friends of the deceased.Therefore
need to take the initiative and offer assistance in organizing the funeral or to visit for two weeks after the burial.Condolences for the death that you pronounce the, shall not affect the foreign themes and your personal affairs, inappropriate uses quotes from a variety of literary works.It is best to remember the good moments of the life of the deceased, to tell how he was a man without affecting poor or unpleasant situations.Try gently to avoid expressions of sympathy for those who have had a strained relationship with the deceased, because such an act and throw on them and on you a shadow of falsehood.In subsequent meetings with relatives or friends of the deceased lift abstract topics, not recalling the mountain.
It so happens that you can not attend the funeral?In such a situation still is to express condolences on the death.Send flowers or a telegram with the attached letter.In no case do not express condolences
phone, because it is not accepted.But you can send me an e-mail or SMS.
If the child died ...
especially hard to find words of condolence on the death of the child.The misfortune that befell their parents, often knocks them out of the rut and withdraw forces or even grow cold to each other.You can refer to religion and say that the child is now watching them from heaven, and he would not like to see that his death separates parents make to become other people.They are required to meet, but later, because everything in the will of God.If the parents are not believers, just try to support them in every way possible.Remember that any sincere condolences on the death can produce a healing effect.In this situation, it is not necessary to dissemble.
If parents died ...
Do not grind out condolences on the death of my mother or father, especially if
almost did not know these people.Sometimes it is enough just to be there to help in all possible ways, showing part to the one suffered the loss.If he wants to be alone - not an obstacle, but be sure to send a letter with warm words to support a person covered by grief.
Remember - any words you want to say, must come from the heart.Do not be like the people who wish only to observe certain formalities.The only way to truly honor the memory of the deceased.
