Let's talk about the way by which we lose precious energy.This citizen is able to disguise even better than envy or greed.It is also sticky, bothersome.And it also does not go far.
As evident pride:
1. I'm always right (a) - an attempt to always and everywhere to be right, emphasizing his innocence, the desire to prove to everyone around her.
2. I'm better than others (I know, I can ...).Similar to the previous point, but the emphasis is on their superiority.
3. Do as I want.This is the position of selfishness with pride in one person.You must be so, I know how.And I'll teach you how to.How to treat me like to talk to me.
4. I know how to live.And all of you, the ignorant, I will turn to goodness.All teach, tell everybody (but in their lives often used will not, because I have all the good I have is perfect, even if not married, single, and not implemented).Very often we fall into this position when we get knowledge.And begins to bear - all indiscriminately, filter, day and night.
That's about as we move away from our favorite Knowledge - the desire to "cause" good.
5. desire to be responsible for feelings, actions and fates of others.You know, as children do - it seems that the reason for all the senses of parents - it's them.Mom upset - because of me.Dad is angry - I am guilty.
If we carry over into adulthood, we get paranoia based on pride.Head angry at me.Male in depression because of me.The child got sick because of me.I am a great evil that is destroying the world around.And again, if everything is good - I'm the cause of it all.The husband of the case to the mountain - my merit.Children learn well - I tried.Weather sunny outside - I did.I mean, I - like a God who dispenses fate, punishes, encourages.
6. I am the (th) unfortunate (th) in the world.That is the position that "I have the most wonderful", only in reverse.If you highlight the talents and beauty of did not work - will be very unhappy, I have problems at issue.I will be complaining all, carry your cross, suffer significant.
7. condemnation of others.Because I know how to.And I blame them for what they do not like what I want.But this has its consequences.
8. hanging labels - especially the psychological orientation.By sotsionike on psycho.You - Dostoevsky, you're an introvert, you have the visual vector.That is, I am speaking as a cataloguer of other people and operate them as things.
9. Disclaimer advice.If a person does not listen to anyone's advice at all - it's pride.If a person listens to all the advice and should - this is nonsense.And a healthy position - in the middle.When I listen to advice only those people whom I trust as a senior.Maybe it's the parents, teachers, older friends.But if such people do not, then "I decree no one" - and it is a position of pride that does not allow very much.After all, this advice is not always the teachings and not just criticism.This room for growth, development, new horizons.If this advice from the "chosen" people you completely trust.Who are you to be unselfish and look forward to your success.
10. all the time fall into a state of resentment and sacrifice.This is not so with me said, this is not something said these did wrong.I appreciate the actions of people say - you can not do with me, it's not fair!And pride is born.
11. render all assistance to "down."That is, am applying to a beggar with a look as if God himself came down to it.Expecting a standing ovation, many thanks.And if you do not get them, or fly into a rage, or resentment.That is, help is not done in order to help a person, but in order to emphasize their superiority and gain recognition.
12. express their opinions, give advice, when requested to do so.Internet is full of it.Just watch some heated discussion - and you will see how people become personal.Even with a child under the pictures in the competition.I'm not talking about the articles and blogs.Throw in my two cents and to make sure that my word was the last.So I won.Any price
13. claims their home.They're built from the position - you owe me (children - to learn, her husband - earning parents - not to interfere).
14. categorical statements.When I think that you can live just so as I say and not otherwise.Deprives another of freedom of choice and free will.
15. ingratitude.Very often, we forget to say thank you.Or say it mechanically.A person may have a lot invested in his act.So often we estimate donation of horses from the position - and again stupid towels!Or poke baby in poorly washed corners, not noticing how he tried.
16. Giperotvetstvennost.When we were loaded on a lot of things, and my mom and dad, and my sister and her husband.Again, this is the position of God.I'm able to, cope with everything, decide everything.But in fact, do not go out.Therefore say giperotvetstvennost - it's the same irresponsibility, just over the society approves.
17. irresponsible.It is also a position of pride.We assume no responsibility for, when we think that it is obliged to do by other people.
18. I'll save you all!This is especially fond of people helping professions - doctors, psychologists.The man attributes to himself the credit for someone's healing, forgetting that all the will of God.What we are all just tools.And even if the majority of my patients are recovering, this is not my merit.I just do my work well and I am an obedient tool in the hands of the Lord.
19. disregard for the feelings of others.There are, perhaps, such a position - do what I want, do not care at all?I want all the money in the casino going to take, I want the head of the mistress, I want a mother in a nursing home offered.And what?It's their problem!If we act with others in this way, it all comes back to us.Sooner or later.But any disregard for the feelings of others - it is pride.The main thing is not to go into the polar position - the navel of the earth, and I'm responsible for the feelings of each rabbit and poplar.
20. dissatisfaction with their lives.Not those parents, not the city, not the husband.I know better what I deserve.And all this is unfair!Someone mixed up the paper in the office of heaven, and I got someone's bad and my good one lives and is happy!
21. There is no God.Who is this God of yours?I have not been created, and I should not be anything to anyone.It is the worst form of pride that completely deprives a person of the possibility of spiritual progress.
What to do?
1. Transfer of knowledge - those who so request, from the position I'm the same as you. share knowledge - it is our duty.It is important to do it properly, carefully and accurately.The best way - to infect your example, show your changes.Only it inspires.And then you can use the original sources.Not to repeat the lectures of teachers, making their accents, and share their experiences, and just to show where it is possible to read / listen to.
2. Start to do the work that you think is a "dirty" beneath their dignity.Wash hands floors.Or wash the floors in the front.Or paint the walls.Or to put beds for everyone.Get out of your comfort zone and realize that you are not behind it collapsed, and vice versa.Become stronger.
3. Anonymous make the world better. same entrances better to wash the night anonymously.To no one thank you for it, thus increasing the pride.Donations are also best done anonymously and not to tell anyone.Only if you are asked to share ways to help others.But do not tell how often, how much money and so on.
4. Diary of gratitude life. Write down every night for at least 10 things you are grateful for the world, God, Life.To understand what it's given to you, and you do not create it.Then it is easier to overcome the crisis.
5. The practice of silent and attentive hearing. You can try a couple of days not to insert my two cents in conversation.And just listen.Attentively.Everyone.Not coming up at this time, and how we could respond.You can hear a lot of interesting and useful.And the people you explicitly will seem pleasant companion.
6. Practice mental bows. At a meeting with each person - mentally bowed to him.Someone can not just bow down and mentally.For example, a parent or spouse.In constellations it bows have magical significance.Thus, a person demonstrates the respect and gratitude, and recognition.
7. If you pass the knowledge to people, and get a gratitude - to give it to his teacher. If you do not have a teacher - a man who once gave you the book you want.There are parents who taught you to read these smart books.Any mom who taught you to speak and understand speech.Please appreciation of who came to see you.Then mentally give it to the man that you learned something.So you will not have pride, you do not arrogant, not zazvezdilsya.
8. Adoption of others. It is easy to say but hard to do.Try in any situation where there is a protest, condemnation or rejection - say to yourself - "you is not what I wanted you to be" - and it is better many times.
9. Confession and prayer. universal way for any religion.
10. Charity. we have already talked a lot, but remember that the best way to do it anonymously.Or, at least, do not tell everyone about what you are doing.
11. To thank the people. waiter - a cup of tea.Head - for the new task.Husband - for the washed dishes.Child - of painted flower.Parents - for help and attention.And try to invest in a piece of gratitude to my soul.
12. The principle of the mirror. Remember that the world - our mirror.And the people - our mirror.If we have something annoying in the other person, then we have the same disease.It may be in various forms.But the diagnosis of exactly one.Just think, in this case - and where I act the same way?Who do I behave in the same way as this man?
13. The principle of anti-crab. If you put in the bath the crab, he chooses out in seconds.And if the crabs have two or more - did not get none.Because it will be very nimble to pull off downwards.Stop being a crab for their loved ones.Rejoice when they develop.Let the husband rises first to choose.And then - will give you a hand.If you support him, he will do it.Better yet, this time not only happy for him, but also to engage in its development.
difficult conversation turned, right?Let it not be in vain.Have you seen your pride and begin to interact with it.So she melted like ice cream in the bright sun, the light of your love and warmth.
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