According to psychologists, the main reason for many of the problems of modern man may well be low self-esteem.Let's trace statistics.It turns out that 80% of the world population does not meet their professional status or position in society.How is it shown?Yes, a lot of what!For example, the inability to get a good job or having to deal with unloved and boring pastime, someone is constantly faced with family problems, others suffer from loneliness or unfulfilled abilities.Diffident man is difficult to find common ground with others, and it is usually exposed to different kinds of phobias.
What to do?All experts unanimously repeat that if you are determined to be healthy and happy, you have no choice but to deal with self-doubt.
In this article, I would like to reveal the essence of the problem, point to the origins of its origin, as well as give some tips on how to become more confident, more determined, and therefore happier.
low self-esteem.Definition
All of us, and exceptions to be here, I think, can not, there are so-called image of his own "I", which just may be regarded as the center of the person.What is it?I would say that first of all from the ideal representation of himself, and this self-consciousness, as a rule, very carefully guarded from any kind of criticism.
At heart, each of us is confident in its perfection, relevance and originality.Why is that?Yes, because people simply could not live if I were absolutely sure of his worthlessness and uselessness.That is, initially each of us nature has certain baggage of talent and confidence to overcome difficulties.But the fact is that every day is found plenty of circumstances that somehow undermine our faith in their own abilities, and that is a result of this and develop such negative feelings as feelings of insecurity, guilt, fear and full of discontent is the result.There is a low self-esteem, aggressiveness, irritability and weakness.
How arrives in this case, an ordinary person?Do not know?I help you.He begins to shift the blame on others, and himself deeper and deeper into withdrawal, thereby only exacerbating the situation.
Types of self
In general, psychologists believe that there are three types of evaluation itself:
- low self-esteem;
- adequate;
- increased.
without a doubt the best self-esteem should be considered natural and adequacy of behavior.Let's examine how people will behave with different self-esteem.For example, take the mother with a small child.
Children are children.Movable kid was running around the yard, several times fell soiled knees and palms, shoes, of course, are not very clean.Mom with low self-esteem will be ashamed of the child and try to get away home to one of the neighbors noticed the "feats" of its offspring.
Mom with adequate self-esteem is always ready for this kind of adventure, so in her pocket there are wet or handkerchief.The kid did not even notice how suddenly turn Neat.
Well, parent with high self-esteem will try to turn into a kind of slovenliness feat, marking over other mummies that her child - the most gifted (fast, bold, brave), and dirty clothes - it's just more proof of her innocence.
low self-esteem: how to fight
immediately wanted to warn that the rapid and the more immediate results should not be count.This process can take a long time.Why is that?I think that because a person has to change their way of thinking and their own perception of themselves, and this can not happen overnight.
Thus, low self-esteem - a problem which, if desired, can handle one, you need to do is just try to stick to the following tips:
- Never compare yourself with others.You - it's you!Remember once and for all.Yeah, maybe something important from what is at your buddies, you are missing, but believe in something and they envy you.
- Do not scold yourself and at all costs avoid comments aimed at self-deprecation.
- For compliments should be thanked rather than trying to refute them.
- Surround yourself with positive people.
- Think and make a list of personal achievements and positive personal qualities.They are guaranteed to have you!
- more give than to receive.
- do only that much.
- Live your own life.
