Each of us at least once in his life faced with rudeness.From this no one is immune: you can be rude to queue for bread in a crowded public transport or "prune" your car.We are indignant: "Wow what a cad!"What people tend to put in a word?What is its true value?
Ham (or rudeness) - a phenomenon ubiquitous.Very often faced with this, when you come to decide any issue in state institutions.It seems that every second officer is a boor, and that is one of the main requirements for a job in the state apparatus.Most decent people lost under the pressure of such a person, sometimes not knowing how to respond to challenges facing them is inadequate, not to lose their own face.Let's try to deal with this social phenomenon to be ready to rebuff.
Who is ham?
To begin to know the origin of the word "ham".What does it mean, how come?Open Dictionary Dahl.It says that ham - it is expletive nickname slaves, servants, lackeys, serfs.Indeed, before the nobility considered themselves far above ordinary people.In fact, many of the nobles looked at serfs like cattle.Although, if you look honestly, that often it was the opposite.Many nobles behaved like real boors and peasants is an example of morality.Although there are exceptions.
Now open the dictionary and read Ozhegova: ham - a person different coarseness and ignorance.This definition is closer to the modern understanding of the term.Although the word "ham" in Dahl can not be called outdated.Just a little sense it transformed.Now our society is divided into two parts: a small - the oligarchs, positioning themselves as the elite;and large - it is the common people.In fact, nothing has changed, "money bags", and in particular their offspring ("golden youth"), who themselves have not achieved anything in life and live on all ready, just as many years ago, consider that the averageman - he is a boor, cattle and so on.However, the attitude of the rich to the poor - is a topic for another article, so we will not dwell on this.Well, the etymology of the word "ham" clear now proceed to consider the concept in conventional sense.
And for that, let's see, how else can you call a person other than such behavior, in other words, try to find a synonym for the word "ham".Knowing the encyclopedic definition of the concept, to make it easy.So ham - a rude, insolent, impudent, bumpkin, ignorant, Hamley.
Computer troll
Computer ham - a kind of insolent and snapper.It distinguishes it from "classical" cad cowardice.Computer troll hiding behind the monitor, it is removed from his victim for many kilometers and therefore feels safe.As a result of such an individual is fully revealed and poured the whole tubs of mud on his opponent.Often, the troll did not even aware of the topic at the forum, he never read an article by the author, but the first to write a comment full of venom and dirt.It was his finest hour, he gets an indescribable pleasure.
Introduction hamovedenie
Agree, it is difficult to deal with such people.How to resist the pressure of how to protect themselves from the anger of a man and still be in a good mood?In the modern world varieties cads - a great many.There were even professionals such as "hamovedy" who are trying to create their own classification.Despite the differences between rude in their behavior there are some common symptoms, which may determine who is in front of us.What are they?
Typical signs cad
lot about a person can say his speech.So, cad primarily produces an abundance of boastful statements.He constantly challenges the people around him!In a speech cad always present impudence, even insolence.He speaks with contempt about his "opponents".Often in conversation he uses abusive and indecent expressions familiarity, flat jokes appeal to "you."Also for boors characteristic denial of any social norms, they consider themselves superior to despise any rules other than its own.At the same time, such a person demonstratively rants on Human Rights that "rival" allegedly violated, the dignity and honor.And this despite the fact that he himself is absolutely alien to these concepts.Ham is always selfish, so only able to protect their "honor."These people are characterized by ostentatious behavior, they are always important, and all kind show that.Hearing about a new "rival", they are always excited, impatient and eager for the fray.Their behavior is strongly reminiscent of the habits cocky rooster.
What is it?
normal person it might seem wild, but with the help of rudeness individuals meet some of their basic needs.If you happen to step on public transport or foot will push another passenger, the victim often react adequately - take an apology or do not pay attention to it.This means that normal people did a lot.But if you find a ham, one such person is able to spoil the mood of all the passengers.Why does he do it?If we analyze these scandalous incidents, as well as their results, it becomes clear that neither of which we are not defending the interests of progress.True ham does for the love of the process.At the same time he achieves several goals.Let us examine them in detail.
boorish benefits
1. First and foremost is the need to communicate.Ham is often very limited people without intellectual interests.However, it needs to communicate, even at a primitive level, "trolley disassembly."The main thing is that at the time, filled with spiritual emptiness.Any person required emotional contact.Ham difficult to attract the attention of the interlocutor intelligent conversation, so it uses the weapons available to him - shout abuse, insults and so on.
2. The need for recognition.In normal everyday situations boor difficult to achieve the approval of the limited intellectual resources.But in the scandal, he bathes in the attention of others, even illusory.In the conflict talk to him, looking at him, and then recognize.In this situation, a boor feels that he is not "empty space."
3. ostentatious own superiority.In reality, cad a very low self-esteem.At heart, he was always dissatisfied with himself.In life it is little what has been achieved.The abundance of complex and low self-esteem hinder adequate communication with people.And if an inferiority complex combined with ignorance, there is no other way than rudeness.For such individuals, it is important to demonstrate that he is stronger, better than others, even at loggerheads.And if such a person holds a high post, it does not mean that his self-esteem is high.Rather, he is aware of his limitations, insolvency and sees no prospects.Therefore, in order to show their own superiority, ham trying to humiliate the "opponent".This - the main goal.
With this you can and must be fought
Let's see how to answer the boor and not to lose face.There are several options to respond to attacks against such individuals.
1. The simplest solution is to use the principle of "an eye for an eye", ie perehamit cad.By this method, you can resort only if you are confident and ready to start war of words.In this case, you are depriving cad sense of superiority, stun with his own weapon.However, this is not the best way, because you are like Him, and it does not paint you.We should not forget that before you - a flawed man, and so he was punished, and he live with it.In addition, it should be understood that such a development could escalate into physical abuse.
2. The following scenario - is ignoring his attacks and unflattering remarks.However, this method is valid only if you do it sincerely.If you can look into the eyes of Hama and see a blank space or a wall if you do not change in the face, it will be the ultimate weapon.In this case, it will choke their own bile, and you'll be a winner.
3. Path failure from the conflict.You should not give in to emotions, take boor as shopkeepers or preacher.Show that you are not interested.Not finding the expected reaction programmed in the conflict immediately switches to a person, and his soul will remain puzzling, because the usual program has not worked.
4. This way are usually the ones who turns enemies into friends.For this purpose it is necessary to realize how miserable people seeking to hurt you.It is necessary to treat the boor with a sincere love.It is very difficult, but possible.
Hama Roads
In modern Russia, a new kind of rudeness - arrogant driver.Using impunity from law enforcement, some wealthy and powerful motorists imagined themselves almost kings.They do not respect the rules of the road, do not pass pedestrians passing on a red light, "crop" of other drivers parked on sidewalks.Today, such behavior becomes widespread, however, any action causes a reaction.And in Russia there was a public organization, which calls itself "stopham."These people, having met the driver, cynically violating traffic rules, glue on the windshield of his car sticker with the inscription "stopham."At the same time they take a "star" in the video, so that everyone could admire it in "Youtube".After all, a country must know its "heroes" in the face.
Conclusion This article should not be considered complete if no mention one fact - the Bible.Widely advertised Christian righteous Noah (the one that was saved during the Flood) once, do not calculate the forces, he had fallen asleep in his tent.
And so, to his misfortune, the son of Noah and Ham looked for some reason, the tent and saw the father's - quote - "drunk and naked."No, to remain silent, so he went and told his brothers about what they saw, and they - as faithful sons - told about this morning daddy.As a result of righteous Noah cursed Ham.Here is such a strange act, but it is not for us to judge.After Noah the righteous, and who are we? ..
