Tears, tantrums, screaming, slamming doors and attempts to return a sense of bygone often desperate and dangerous.Do not you think with this we associate the rupture of relations?However, we do not have to behave like the heroes of romantic melodramas and tragedies, vein cut, jump off the balcony and burn all the bridges.Wise people know how to leave on good terms, so as not to poison the lives of themselves or former or others.
Cold calculation here to help and will act immediately.Especially when one of the partners has continued to hope for a return.However, even the one who waits and believes in the resurrection of the senses, you should think about themselves and their needs.The old method of pros and cons and then tell you how to leave on good terms.First, assess the next life with him / her and without.It can not be so in all at parting were some dark sides.
For example, in the pros, you can add that from now on you do not have to cook his favorite dish that you can not stand or walk with her boutiques before losing momentum in the search ", I do not know what."In the past, and will clarify the relationship and violent jealousy.Second, one can estimate the gap itself.Divide the sheet into two parts.First write down what you get if you do not give a divorce, do not allow or will interfere with the partner to leave and establish their lives.The second part - it might look like your relationship, if you can survive this period with minimal losses.Is a friendship between you?Or perhaps the former more than once you can ask for help and support?Or you just might be interested in from time to time to meet and talk about life.If you have been together, something positive because it was in a relationship.How to know, do not acquire these moments of the new value and quality, if you give each other breathing space and freedom?
But how to leave on good terms, if all you flipped the pain and anger?Perhaps, in this case without the help of a psychologist or family therapist can not cope.After all, to evaluate the pros and cons - is one thing, but to learn to manage emotions, often very severe, acute - is quite another.For those who are afraid or who are very difficult to make possible the frequent meetings with the "former half", a reasonable solution can be departure.It is not necessary to find ways how better to leave the guy to move to another city or country.Maybe even a short trip, and dividing the distance you will do the job.Emotions calm down, to replace them will come new experiences.Both sides will have time to think and rethink what happened earlier.
In the West, in America, in addition to the help of psychologists and lawyers, there are agencies which organize "holidays divorce."And it makes sense.After all, getting married or long union, and people celebrate the event itself, and different dates that are important for two.And at break does not end life, and begins a new stage.It can become more joyful and optimistic.And if you know how to leave a good guy or a girl, kindness, not with curses and accusations, and with the wishes of all the light, the life is not lack, but on the contrary, you gain a true friend.To do this, it is important to trust.Often gaps are unprepared, sharp, painful.But if both are looking for ways to leave on good terms, talk about what has been accomplished during the relationship that is good and they have brought light into your life, why it did not happen and as a couple plans to continue to communicate, can be an important point.Not the culmination of the tragedy and step into a new quality.Remember, as the poet said: "Because God forbid you to be loved."Let us strive for mutual understanding and trust.Be happy!
