often dealing with a child's parents are caught myself on the fact that they do not know what to do.Depending on the situation, forms of education will look different.It is important to understand here that you want the child and that the child wants you to do.
It's simple!If your child asks for something with perseverance, it means that for some reason he needs.To select a reasonable form of education and methods of pedagogical influence on the child, the parents, it is important to find out - why.With this approach, parents formed a true motivation for actions, which subsequently will not give the child to make a mistake at a time when he will be left without supervision and advice.Thus it is achieved and the most important task: a parent sends a child and methods of self-education.
On the other hand, to form in his beloved treasure this very true motivation (you can call it conscience, there is an opinion that conscience - this is our guide), most parents also need to have clear goals and
gently explain to themchild.In this case the child-rearing practices and the approach to them will prompt parents to their loving hearts.
Let's say that your goal - to bring a happy man.Happy is the man who knows how to love.Because who knows how to love a person is usually too fond of those who surround him.The principles of the world order, such as "Do not take anything out of nowhere" and "love thy neighbor as thyself," then triggered strictly: the one who gives his love, that love will certainly return.Hence the happiness.
therefore, teach the child to love and be happy.Asks the handles?We are trying to understand - why."Just a whim" - not explained.Because just cranky they can not even in principle, that they then experience will teach the parent was directly involved.Caprice at an early age is not, there is an unmet need.For example, the need for bodily contact.We are all born with this need.In the same way as the need to eat, drink, sleep, move, breathe fresh air, relax after work and other others.And no one would dream of denying your child for no apparent reason in eating or walking.Similarly, for no apparent reason you should not deny him his need to pull over to an adult, loving and strong person.
Besides, you know, from the top, it looks very different - not like the bottom, is much more interesting.By depriving your child of the angle of the world, the parent deprives him of the possibility to explore the world in all its beauty and diversity.In any case, this removes the possibility for a long time.
But suppose that a request to take the pen is still accompanied by a roar and a lunacy.This suggests that the forms of education, parents selected previously were not quite right - that is, elementary parents are not trying to figure out what the baby needs, and immediately took him in his arms to comfort her.This is natural, because it is very frustrating when a pipsqueak broken.But do not allow your child to get used to resolve conflicts in this way, it is necessary to find out the essence of his desires.
So, "not to shout" - this is the wrong motive of the parent, this is not an action that is beneficial to our goal to raise a happy man.Pick him up, please, but first explain that mommy-daddy love to take your hands (just take the hand, and not just like) gay child.Say it whenever he cries and asks for arms.Speak fun, hard, with love.Ask wipe away tears, help him in this - let handkerchief, napkin, in a word, distracting as possible from his unconscious is to elicit the desired solutions roar.Laugh, or myauknuv gavknuv as you want, you better know what laughs from your child, and what forms of education are required in this situation.When the laughs - and then take him in my arms.Joy and love.Several of these exercises, and he taught himself to wipe the tears, before asking his arms.Everyone will be a little bit easier.
