No matter where you are going - to the country, a ski resort or to the warm sea.We believe that the holidays are too short to spend it on scandals and showdown.
declare a moratorium on the discussion, because of which you usually konfliktuete.Winter vacation is too short to spend it on endless quarrel.
Worst of unrealized dreams - only to realize
try to understand whether or not a man is to blame for all that you are unhappy?Ironically, the ranking of these causes, which can spoil the holiday, not the behavior of a loved one is headed, but ... your level of expectation is too high to be real.
mechanism looks like this: Once in place, you are "suddenly" realize the water in the sea is not enough salt, landscapes are not so charming, the weather, unlike the promises vile, elevator creaks, ski suit for some reason, then the total bed toocreaky - in short, from the fact that you are a "namechtali" romantic, do not come true.Disappointment is becoming stronger, internal stress increases, and even if the man had behaved impeccably, still ongoing dissatisfaction will inevitably turn into a "debriefing".
Tip №1 : Remember, the better your requirements and your partner, and to a place of rest, the greater the likelihood that you will be unhappy.Do not shift responsibility for joint rest on the shoulders of a loved one, no matter how broad and strong they are.After all, happiness - this is just a state of mind which is essentially independent of external factors.
Tip №2 : No need to take a sample of relations "perfect" photos posted in brochures and travel companies to worry that your vacation is not as perfect as in the picture.Living people are different from the pictures that can not afford to feel (and test!) A whole range of emotions, not only the full and unconditional happiness, and that's okay!
sewn together too sharp needle
24 hours a day, without breaks and weekends with your favorite - it is, at least, tedious and not romantic.Such activities of the devastating impact on the strength of your union can only be compared to apartment repairs.You can not sit all day, looking into the eyes of the beloved.The exception is perhaps that "svezhevlyublennye" couple exclusively engaged with each other."Overdose" proximity described Vladimir Vysotsky has "come home, you're sitting there" becomes a cause of new conflicts.
Tip : Winter vacation is too short to spend it on endless quarrel.Just let each other from time to time to rest from the second half (for example, agreed that one day out of seven you spend individually) and declare a moratorium on the topics of which you usually find out the relationship.Also, remember that men love to work on projects that have a purpose and fall within a time interval.Note this feature male psychology when planning activities.
He looks after her ...
Have you ever wondered, dreaming, for example, on a beach holiday, that holiday by the sea - it is not only soothing rustle of the waves, white sand flowing through your fingers, pieces of ice clinking in a glass withcocktail and the sun in December, but other people?Specify - other people the same sex, are not burdened with a lot of clothes, happy to show off their body around ... However, if you are not confident of their appeal, the reason for jealousy there, even if you went to conquer the North Pole.
Tip : Before leaving, be sure to read at least one book by John Gray - especially recommend the "Mars and Venus: Why we fight" and "Men, women and relationships" to my own eyes to make sure that the desire to look after attractive girlgenetically inherent in men.To fight against this phenomenon is practically useless, it is better to spend the strength and energy to increase their own self-esteem.
What we need to agree to the departure
choose the target travel through joint efforts, it should be appropriate to the both of you about the rest.So that no one had to "make sacrifices" for the sake of love.Talk out loud about their desires and preferences - alas, men still can not read other people's thoughts.If a compromise is not really, I think, maybe, well, it, this vacation?
agreed to discuss the fact that you do not like, even before it reaches the stage of dissatisfaction with the conflict.Not accumulate negative emotions, otherwise then began trifling quarrel, you can not stop.
Discuss approximate schedule, do not forget about personal space and a separate talk about how and where you will eat.
Answer the questions "what, where, when and how" - usually men are only interested in FACTS and women - emotional component.Your task is to agree on all four counts, that there was no "gaping void".
Articles Source: woman.ru
