Andrew sits, clutching a toy."Andrew, Sergei let the machine play, give play! Well, why are you so greedy? Give immediately! Do you hear what I'm telling you!"Serge pulls the car to himself, Andrew is not inferior.But Sergei pulls out a toy and Andrew rushes to the offender with his fists."Do not you dare to beat him! Oh, so you ?! I ask!"- A familiar gesture mother slaps her son, who was crying hurt.
Andryusha in the sandbox are not loved - my mother feared, when their children were trying to play with him.And to me he seemed so unhappy!He sits on their pining away toys and fears that they will take away from him.Yes, and be punished for what he cherishes them.
Education generosity
How Paradoxically, the generosity of the education of children begins with the fact that they are allowed to own.In fact, all of us have some things that we do not want to share with anyone.(For example, I can not stand it when someone tries my jewelry).
We, the parents, it is important to remember that for kids favorite things mean as much as it is for adults.So do not be easier to decide in advance that your child is particularly expensive, and leave the toys at home?
- Let's hide your favorite Harlequin and Stepashka.And in everything else because you are allowed to play the other, right?- So tell her son or daughter, and you will minimize the collision on the toys.
This will be not only a manifestation of our careful attention to the needs of the child, but also respect for himself.The kid must be sure that his love with him considered that he did not have all the time to fight for their place under the sun.Otherwise, he does not have enough mental strength to be good!And how else - because all the time he will be forced to defend its interests.
Do not be afraid that the child who hides his favorite toys will never be generous.In fact, the lavish be nice.It's nice when you can easily make someone a little happier, it's nice when you are grateful.And then, even the most fantastic toy bored quickly, if there are no other, who understands how this fantastic toy.Note: generous usually not those who are rich in material, and those who are good to yourself and to others who feel that their own love and respect.A greedy so value their property, perhaps precisely because they have nothing else.
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Hope in a hurry to meet his son from school and decided to cut off the road.Way through the bushes, she heard the excited children's voices:
- Give the hat!I'll tell my brother!- A child's voice said with a barely noticeable accent.
- Well, tell me!Sneak!
on clearing unbuttoned coat was a lanky boy of southern appearance.In a small, clearly militant, small group around him Hope saw her Sasha.When a female adult children shyly parted.
- You all right?- Hope said.And without waiting for an answer, she turned to Sasha.- Go home?
Boy southern appearance, I wanted to say something, but then silence abruptly snatched his cap from the nearest to it boys, and without looking back, walked away.
- Who is that?- Arsene - Sasha began, and then, as if apologizing, he added: - It is all over, and learn the worst.And in Russian says bad.- Why he was without a hat?- Well, we did - reluctantly began to tell Sasha.- Well, I started throwing it, and he took offense and began to fight ... He did just that - climbs fight.- And you?- And we decided not to give him his hat, as he does not apologize ... - What about you?- Hope insisted.- What about me?- Son cowered under my mother's eyes.- Do you understand what he is cold without a hat?- The son remained silent.- Do you understand that it is difficult to speak in Russian?He could not go to school on time, because it was a war in the country.He arrived in Moscow, he does not know anybody here, he has no friends.And then you got together and decided to have fun - took away his hat, surrounded him, pestering ... Yeah ... I did not expect from you ...
They were silent all the way.Two weeks later at a parent teacher meeting talked about the difficult relationship between the children in the class and Arsen."... only one Sasha - and homeroom teacher turned to Hope - standing up for him."
children in communities such situations occur very often.Children keenly feel when someone stands out among them.Strange, unfamiliar usually causes anxiety, and so the children often behave aggressively towards outsiders.
At the same time the children hard to put yourself in the place of another.Their egocentric thinking to a certain age does not allow them to do it.Therefore, education of kindness begins primarily with the development of the imagination.Some children enough to explain once, some paints have to talk about what the other person feels, more than once.But it is very important because a person who can understand what someone is bad, who can put themselves in the place of another, has already received the first lesson of kindness.
However, children 6-8 years is very easy to collective mood.Among peers child may behave quite differently than alone.After all, people are no longer in the group to feel personally responsible for their actions.And in fact it does not allow us to pass someone else's grief.Therefore, if you want your child to grow good, teach him to feel responsible not only for himself but also for his friends, for the events.
Teach your child to take care of someone.If you can not make the animal house, at least plant a flower room.Teach your child to take care of your green friend - watered, sprayed, insulate.Rejoice with him to each new leaves, each bud.
And, of course, the way the child will take responsibility for others, depends on how responsible adults behave towards him.
Just about the complex
we went once with my girlfriend and her eight-year daughter Masha on the subway.Visibility: is a beggar with a child begging.Masha enormous eyes opened: - Mom, do you have money?Let us help.But the relationship began to fuss, hurried, says: - Come on!- Mom, that you have no money?- There is.- Why then?Mom, she is a small child.- Come on, let's go - and my friend, frowning, Masha pulled forward to the turnstiles on the go taking from the bag a ticket ...
How often do we, for whatever reasons, refuse to help the children and to stop the good impulses.That we are not allowed to take a stray dog, it does not wish to file a cripple, then diligently do not notice the crying woman.Of course, the dog - it's a big responsibility, and maybe the disease;cripple we see in this place that month, and he is always drunk;at the weeping woman, probably, some grief, and it is best left alone.Sooner or later our children will understand what's what and how much.But still, no matter how complex are your motives and feelings, try to explain to their children.It is very important for them.The young soul is very fragile and susceptible.It constantly is changing the concepts, ideas and relationships.And when my mother repeatedly says that we should be kind, but she refuses to help someone who needs it is required to act to keep the child in disbelief and confusion.
In the car Masha village separately and deliberately buried in a book.A friend told me the following story:
- A year ago, a close friend of my son was killed ... I was under the impression this trouble and saw a woman in transition with a sign: "Help to bury his son."I gave her almost all that I was moved and cried because there is nothing more terrible than all ... And in 2 months I saw it again with the same sign ... I have since the poor do not throw away.- Lord!But why did not you tell her about this Maschke ?!- I exclaimed.- After such stories Masha will think that all - freaks.I honestly do not know how to explain it all.- And all you need not.Come on in parts.
And we agreed that I would say our Masha the following: "You know, my mother once a very evil deceived, and now she does not believe the poor. You want to help, and it's great. Let's figure out how to do it. Let's help children whoThis really need, and so that our aid came before them. For example, there is a children's village ... ".
Masha We had a long talk about the children who have no parents, about orphanages, about the "Children's Village".Prosvetlevshaya Masha determined to translate them money every month - a small portion of the amount that it is given out of pocket expenses.And I hope she will not forget about his intention.But this important conversation Masha could not be.
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