1. reject any destructive criticism and self-criticism.Destructive criticism - a negative assessment of human actions or events, which implies an attempt to impose a point of view.Imposition - this violence, and life does not like violence, so do not waste your energy on what will turn against you.If you can not without criticism, change it from destructive to constructive, contributing to improve the situation.
2. refuse negative thoughts, stop terrorizing itself destructive attitudes.Thoughts create our future - what we think constantly, it attracts.Think about the bad - we attract bad, we think about the good - attract good.Fueled by positive and spread it around - it is an effective way to boost self-esteem.
3. Stop blaming yourself and make excuses.If you did something wrong, and you accuse it, just recognize it as a fact.What extra emotions and excuses?Yes, guilty, yes, I corrected.Do not drive yourself to the feeling of guilt and not look for excuses - it's all in the past.Be in the present and think about the future creatively and positively - this way of thinking is the most optimal for humans.
4. communicate more with positive mood and self-confident people who are not trying to pressure you or make a "lower".Select or rebuild your social circle, since this depends directly on your self-esteem and self-confidence.They say, "Who lead - on and rack."
5. engage in a favorite activity that brings real joy or satisfaction.If this is not about your job, then you need to find a hobby that will give you the feeling that life is lived not in vain.Doing something you really enjoy doing, you gain confidence and perhaps even the meaning of life, and it significantly enhances self-esteem.
6. Be patient with yourself.By changing yourself and put into life new positive behavior model, we want instant gratification for their actions, but it should be borne in mind that the material world is separated from the investigation causes some amount of time, and not always the reward comes at once.
7. plan for the future.Set yourself realistic (quite achievable) objectives shall describe the concrete steps to achieve them and regularly bring them to life - it is an effective way to achieve success and gain confidence.Do not wait for tomorrow and do not allow the mind to think about more than really necessary, since the mind tend to think a lot of superfluous, to doubt and to find excuses, "why not do it."If the mind (and for women - intuition) says "must" and "better this way", it means it is necessary, and it was so.
8. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and others.If we regret, therefore, we agree that a person can not cope with a problem that life is unfair, and that the next victim could be me.If you can help a person - help, but do not configure the negative wave of sympathy and pity, because to do worse to themselves and others.Attempts to get pity and sympathy (instead of real help) - this is a manifestation of the subconscious desire "to another was not better than me."
9. gratefully accept gifts of fate.Very often, people think that blind fate sends good people like me - unworthy.Destiny is never wrong - simply there is a delay in time, and we can not always keep track of what we come to this or that good.Accepting gifts of fate, keep doing good deeds, positive share with others, and you will be coming back more and more good.This method of interacting with the world more intelligent.
10. Do not be arrogant, "one is a warrior."Asking for help - this is not a sign of weakness and evidence of wisdom.Weak shy and plays, and strong, when we feel that need support, ask for support, because he never refuses to help, if he can not contradict common sense.We can meet the challenges that life puts in front of us, but no one said that it should be done alone.On the contrary, the interaction with the world around us - this is the key to success.Find your support - and you will become many times stronger, gain confidence in themselves and learn to trust the outside world.
11. love its shortcomings and woes.Any difficulties and challenges make us stronger if we overcome them, and do not resist.Resistance situation only strengthens it, because we're not trying to take her, and repellent.Consequently, there is no solution but to correct the situation can only accept it.To cope with the problems and situations, it's great to boost your self-esteem.
12. Take care of your body, it's not the clothes that you can change at will at any time.Keep your body clean, treat and prevent disease.Sick people are always in poor health.Why create unnecessary problems to yourself?
13. Bring all the things done as unfinished business reduced self-esteem and self-confidence, remind us of the defeat and weakness.Never throw things halfway - then you will have nothing to reproach ourselves for.It's a wonderful way to a gradual increase in confidence.
14. Do not get hung up on the possession.Every thing belonging to you, may suddenly disappear or break.And the more she was, the harder it lost, and the greater this loss will weaken you.Also, the people we're trying to assign to yourself, at any time can get away from us, and the relationship remains.Ultimately, everything belongs to God, and in our use is only temporary, do not forget about it.So be thankful for what you have, but do not get attached to these temporary things.
15. stopped to show its relevance and pretend that you are better than others.If you do not meet the image that demonstrate, others will put you in your place, and you'll look ridiculous.In addition, this behavior you will attract someone who wants to face off with you than usual face off, and you can lose a shame that did not contribute to self-esteem.
16. overcome their fears.Fear - is the main destroyer of your self-confidence.Try to do most things, are afraid to do, but doing without anything stupid, useless heroism and unjustified risk.It may be that overcoming fears - is the best way to succeed.
17. helps people to benefit society and set up the other on a positive wave.This will give you the self-confidence;and when you realize that benefits people, you do not consider yourself a failure.
18. act decisively and purposefully, not looking back and not worrying about past failures.Concentrate on your goals and feel free to go to her;and when you reach it, there will be no need to raise the self-esteem.
19. study the wisdom of trying to penetrate the mysteries of life are the most important ("Who am I?", "What am I doing here?", "How it all work?") And to get answers to these questions.As the self-knowledge and spiritual growth disappear complexes, insecurities and other issues of material existence.
20. love myself now and forever.You - a unique person with a unique set of skills and abilities, you - an integral part of life, you have a unique place and role in life.God made you that way;if he wanted to have another - I would have done to others.Creator takes you that way, as you are at each moment, so it makes no sense not to take yourself and not love.Understanding this will greatly enhance self-esteem, do not you?So never expect that there will be one bright moment when you earn your own self-love, and that this moment would never come easy.
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