quarrel even the most perfect couple, but arguing differently.Someone has plenty to shout at each other, then going through almost a honeymoon, and someone, exchanging "a couple of gentle" seriously thinking about the separation or divorce.Why is that?
must be able to competently quarrels!Word - the only way to convey their thoughts and emotions.The words of his partner, we always perceive in different ways, and not always adequate.
According to psychologists, most often quarrels occur not because of fundamental differences, but because of the fact that the misunderstood word, and accept each other.Sometimes misunderstandings reaches such a degree that the pair must turn to therapists and staff of family counseling.Unfortunately, for help, a man and woman seek when relations are already hopelessly flawed.
There are a few simple steps by which you will easily find a common language with the men.
There are a number of words and statements that put out almost any man, such as: "All because of you";"You are guilty";"You promised";"I have to, because ...";"I told you that it was necessary ...";"If you love me ...";"Mom was right when she said ...".Remember them, and try to avoid during the next showdown.
Your goal - to convey to him the necessary, important information, not to hurt, so to express their thoughts more correctly, no matter how hard.Most importantly - do not bring about the parents, nor about her, nothing about it.
And, of course, refrain from abusive and wounding vanity of words, because of the subject matter you will soon forget the quarrels and insults will long remain in the memory.Even the most violent emotions can wreak in a form completely censor expressions, even if all the arguments have been exhausted long ago.
When a quarrel otburlit, rinse thrown a temper roughness flow of good words.
We turn to the debriefing.After a quarrel sit down together and analyze how it all started and concluded.The method of expression will become clear to each other, and all the key stimuli lose their former strength.And then, finally, even the most acute problems, you will not discuss in paints, and in the details.
