today present themselves to others - is a daily need for each of us.Sometimes our partners - a serious business people, sometimes - casual acquaintances, but, regardless of profession and age, we all would like to make only a positive impression.So it happens that when choosing a style of dress and behavior, communicating with friends and strangers, or even just being present where there are other people, we have one way or another are presenting themselves.To a large extent this happens unconsciously, it can be said, at the level of "natural instincts".However, there is a conscious, premeditated behavior, with special skills.This is pretty self-presentation about yourself.Short and nice to use it - it's an art.
concept of self
Many have heard, but just did not understand the meaning of "self-presentation".This word was the result of mixing the English word "presentation" and the Russian phrase "himself."For the Russian tradition characteristic for a long time were closer to our society samopredyavlenie concepts, self-feeding, management experience.
As a new term, self-presentation can be described as verbal and nonverbal demonstration of self-specific social situations.Simply said, is the ability to present themselves in different situations, the individual communication style, unique image.Most people - consciously or unconsciously - seek to influence the process of forming impressions about themselves, hence different kinds of self-presentation.
Self-presentation and its species.The natural self-presentation
As noted above, there are her two main types: natural and artificial.
Self-natural is a property of all people, without exception.Naturally it begins with the birth of the formation of a human image.So, people are gathering from infancy "the puzzle" of his image, the very unaware of.This occurs without any pondering and forecasting, as they say, "no ulterior motives."This natural process is called natural distribution as a result of which a person is determined in the public consciousness.
But it is important to remember that in the framework of this type of presentation of the process is out of control and adjustment.This is the main "antidostoinstvom" natural self-presentation.It is impossible to say for sure whether the positive effect it would be for an individual or whether it will have a negative color.This process can be identified as a reckless, uncontrollable personality of the presentation itself.
artificial self-presentation
Until such time as the person does not acquire the ability to realize an artificial self-presentation, there's nothing you can do about it.
artificial self-presentation about yourself (briefly and beautifully set out) pursues the main goal - winning the affection of his person by a group of people that are relevant to the presented.To do this, you first need to build the algorithm communicative process with a potential audience.
This creative self-presentation most accurately revealed when a natural in front of important people for us looks very non-winning, and it artificially disguise - it is possible.
A simple example: when because of your temperament around you "go dancing" even inanimate objects, it is sometimes very negative impact on family and business relations, positioning you as a "psycho", "unbalanced" and so on.It should be remembered that the distinctive feature of a bad, negative self is the ability of several times to increase its negative effects.
Image creation
Accordingly, in order not to fall in the eyes of colleagues, is necessary to create the image of a calm rationalist, tactics, and in some cases even a pragmatist, especially if you need self-presentation manager.To earn high praise in the family, you need to understand their family members, have a quality of self-giving for the sake of his family.Although in some situations or profession emotional approach may be necessary, but the main thing here - remember that your self-presentation about yourself briefly and beautifully shall be submitted to the place and not to cause a critical negative perception.
course, simply say, but in reality it is more difficult, as the natural foundation of the self, especially spoiling our image in the eyes of the people, and torn out.
gift or art?
Still, self-presentation about yourself briefly and beautifully presented - it is a gift or art?Today, man is in a variety of situations that arise in society.And it becomes necessary bright packaging and designed mottoes and slogans.If you look through the prism of self-presentation simple sale of any commodity, in this case the product is self-presentation - himself.Unable to cope with each stage of the sale itself, moreover, in general, to solve the problem and go through the necessary steps to success, without having internalized the skills in the creation of self-presentation.As a talent possible without work and daily efforts, work on yourself is the work that we do throughout his life.Therefore, for example, self-educator - this gift, and art in equal measure.
reasons of self
However, there are reasons that motivate a person if he has a natural self-consciously engaged in artificial.
So, a brief self-presentation allows us to:
- get from other people necessary to the life of different kinds of resources - information, material, emotional, and so on. D. A person who is able to "submit" themselves, it is easier to get a job, like the man orwoman.
- Designing self-image, which depends both on the personal beliefs and how we see other people.So if your jokes surrounding the cause laughter, it will generate you the idea that you - a clever man, if you talk about as a knowledgeable and competent - in time you do not believe it.
- pretty smoothly proceed social contacts.Almost all cultures appreciate the careful attitude to "save face."Others you will be less likely to make observations, if mistakes you will be discreetly present.In communicating such behavior greatly helps to mitigate the critical moments, to reduce confrontation and aggression.
And if the purpose of man is to create the most favorable impression in the process of communicating a person is able not only to see themselves through the eyes of a partner, but according to his expectations, adjust their behavior, and ultimately control the behavior of other people.
Performance criteria
What is the effectiveness of self-presentation?So, if the opinion which the speaker is able to produce in the listener, is one hundred percent, eighty percent comes from the individual.And that is a natural self-presentation is not even a brief "pointing down" at the most inopportune moment, pushing thus artificial, it is necessary to implement in a particular area of life, but one essential to the presentation played the hand.If such an area in your life is not, then it should come up.
example, for closed people, introverts, but working in the field that requires a lot of communication, communication, enterprise, you need a daily solitude, which is enough to allocate at least an hour.Extroverts are also encouraged to engage in any activity appropriate to their temperament, sometimes extreme.All of these tips are as old as the world, and now is nothing new.
Samopodstroyka
To learn how to sell themselves and the self-presentation of the teacher, tutor or person any other profession has been successful and the constant need to know and be able to very much.To begin, it is important to remember that our appearance, behavior, style - it's all we have.
first thing you should do before you present yourself - carefully study and analyze the potential audience, inherent style of communication and behavior, way of thinking, style appearance preferences.
After that you start to work on yourself, you have to build a samopodstroyku specifically defined audience for future self.And in the case of laziness have no place, it is important to achieve and demonstrate thoroughness in itself that says involvement.
Using such tactics, the people, which will be sent to your self-presentation, will perceive you as a reviewer worthy of their attention and reverence.This technique is described as "psychological stroking."Today, it is the most effective way to influence society.You like to become a part of the group of people you want to impress, and they are categorized by "the - another" referring you to "their" successful you are taking.This self-presentation - is a guarantee of success.
Self-dominance
There is another way of artificial self-presentation, which is also the basis of analyzing the potential audience.This method is called "self-presentation of dominance."Equipment of this method lies in the fact that the group, which is necessary to have a corresponding impact, you present yourself as a benchmark, thereby serving as an informal leader.Note, however, that this strategy is only suitable for groups of so-called "slave" of people in the group with "leaders" this method of self-could fail.That avoid this, you must carefully consider the potential audience.Thus, under the group or audience understood as a few people, and alone.
algorithm
Currently, there are a sufficient number of methods of "self", but in their selection algorithm must be followed:
- Analyzing "target audience", which seeks "self-presentation".
- basis of the first phase - the strategy of non-verbal and verbal manifestations of the person must meet self-presentation and timing of its implementation.
- Your actions are subject to control and coordination in accordance with the situation.
- natural self-presentation should be implemented outside the context of an artificial.
is important to always remember that you are there and your face.And if, in your opinion, there is a sense in the artificial self-presentation, the veiling, adaptation and change yourself - in your own hands.
Good luck!
