healthy person walks without stumbling, and if you accidentally stumbled - quickly recovered.Mentally healthy people living with high self-esteem and self-esteem when it suddenly dropped - it was an accident, it can quickly correct it.
Some people are always at the level of self-esteem, an article about how to raise self-esteem - are not relevant.Who are these people?They are distinguished from the rest only two things: a real-life success and a solid corset success.
first: real life success.You live well, you live with dignity, your work appreciated, respected friends.To establish and strengthen its vital base (cozy apartment, a favorite summer residence, and the car is very conducive to this), improve their skills, become a respected professional, live as a decent man to create a strong and happy family, friends with decent people ... In general, it is better to berich and healthy than poor and sick, and freedom is better than non-freedom.
second: solid corset success.Military and athletes problem of low self-esteem suffer rare - why?Because they put good posture because they are accustomed to walk with confidence, keep your head up and look ahead, not in itself.Do you want to take care of yourself - get your hands on this skill, it is worth it.
But there is another category of people who have self-esteem falls more often than any others that may fall into self-abasement even against real-life success and very athletic body.
She says she copes with the work.She said that she had a luxury figure.But for some reason she does not believe anyone.Familiar with the situation?And how!And certainly there was some girlfriends and relatives ... or even in the mirror.And sometimes you hear "well, who love me so?" "Well, why I took up the case, to fill up the first draft of" ... low self-esteem, samoedstvo and soul-searching - a typical feature of the female.And the funny thing is that most of it has no serious grounds.
Do you have any suggestion that distinguishes owners of low self-esteem of all others?Answer: the habit of playing the helpless and fall into a state victims.Sometimes it's a game that goes from my childhood, when I portray my mother that I did not go, and I'm so upset, my mother I always regret - so sweet!Child playing helplessness, his mother is sorry - were an adult, suddenly inclined to fall into the syndrome of low self-esteem: "I have bad, I'm nobody, I did not get."By this standard, and it encourages female gender: men like (supposedly) helpless women, they like to feel superior, and women internalize this behavior: "Oh, I can not do it without you ...".She gets the attention of the men concerned, but at the same problem and the appendage - a habit to feel helpless.
More severe cases - if the position of the victims applied just on the low self-esteem, then the person starts to suffer serious and has caused problems for others.
What to do?
Except explicit depression, psychotherapy is here misplaced: there is nothing to be treated, then you need to put in place brains.
- If you are thinking of doing it yourself, see how to clean up the position of victims and to develop the author's position.Carefully read the dictionary victims and more so do not tell.Remove the excuses and get your hands Exercise "Mistakes".
- Begin to rebuild itself on the positive: others spoke of a well, learn to pay compliments and start them talking.This, however, is interesting: when you are not good at talking about myself and about other people, for others, self-esteem will go up yours!Next - Master exercises "Good", it will change your life for the rest of your life.
- Begin to watch your speech, do not talk bad about yourself, even in jest.Saying "Mistakes, I'm good!"- Fun, and "Oh, what a fool I am!"- Just bad.Joking aside, if you ever call yourself a pig, sooner or later zahryukaesh!
- If relevant, work with its uncertainty, pump up a sense of confidence - this is very handy.Again, useful to work with a speech, remove the phrase "And suddenly fail?" "Well, just do not get ..." and other markers of future failure.By the way, to work on their own - well, go to the good training of confidence - even better.This means virtually error-free and helps permanently.
do it - in a month your overall explicitly begin to improve.It's really easy, and the results really come to all.Put this task - and you get the result.
However, be prepared: with the right inner attitude once people are situational glitches.Almost any person from time to time, albeit briefly, lowered his hands, a feeling of "nothing happens", and this state has a self-assessment.It is situational, everything will soon get better, but how to fix it faster?If this condition was your colleague or loved one, it is enough to divert once, once support, and better yet possible to engage in a new business or other situations where success is possible.
And if it happens to you, can you help yourself?Yes of course.Features such as use of signs of superiority and the humiliation of others (boasting, ridicule, accusations, criticism), we recommend not be: at least in the long term it will bring you only additional problems.In fact, there are many simple, reasonable and quite worthy ways to boost yourself self esteem , list only those that lie on the surface.
- Maybe for you is - do what you are able to do great: for example, to quickly make a delicious breakfast, beautifully set the table, eat with pleasure, clear the table and wash the dishes, and to praise themselves.All wow!
- Practically unmistakable opportunity to change the mood of a good thing: call parents, it will be nice to them!
- Always a pleasure to talk with someone who knows you and loves those who sincerely serves as the Golden mirror, followed by mood and raise self-esteem.
- traditional way - remind yourself of your successes, it is very conducive to success Book.You have got it already?If not, sit down and start writing.If you already have an - open it, start to read it.After 5 minutes, your mood magically changed into a bright and quite aside.You'll like it!
- Write their own strengths, their own dignity that characterizes you best.You can start with, "I know how great ..." (list of ten items), then continue their good character traits (just five points. If you write your bad traits - write and immediately cross out with pleasure!) And finish a good time to choose theirappearance (nice figure? pleasant manners?).
- Next.In the early 20th century, almost half of Europe's repeated like a mantra magic formulas of self-hypnosis from a French pharmacist Emile Coue: "My works every day in all respects are getting better and better!"- Excellent help improve self-esteem!If lazy to say so long, say briefly: "I'm good!" To start and this approach.Now, do it right: Stand in front of a mirror, straighten shoulders, smile and say out loud to yourself the complete formula!Once again!And twice!Then - keep muttering these formulas have whispered to himself or making any other business - but with the same happy and cheerful tone.Check these formulas help and centuries later!
- Now, if you already feel the power, use the most powerful tool: start to behave cheerfully and confidently.Make it as playing a role actor or actress, turn the joie de vivre and hold to start at least five minutes.Most likely, you enjoy it and you continue this game is fun for the whole day.
If you make at least three points of the seven, your mood, you surely will correct itself.
Articles Source: psychologos.ru
