Inconspicuous glance at a passing girl, polite smile, addressed the pretty waitress, admiring exclamation, unwittingly broke from the lips at the sight of a fatal beauty, and your girl ... in a rage.Fiercely flashing eyes, she accuses you of treason, grandiose scandals and tantrums, crying, and then not talking weeks.Clutching his head, you experience painfully familiar state of "deja vu", to listen to a stream of unlikely charges and frantically trying to find a way how to deal with her jealousy and rid yourself of the regular "debriefing".
What is jealousy
Jealousy is defined by psychologists as the negatively tinged psychological sense of ownership that occurs in relation to a loved one, friend, family.This perceived lack of personality attention, love and care on the part of the object of jealousy, which supposedly gives it to others.Feeling corrodes the soul, haunted, rising from the depths flow the most aggressive of negative emotions (anger, hatred, humiliation, rabies).Sometimes the poison of jealousy is capable enough to poison the soul of a woman, she decided on the reckless, endangering the life and health of a loved one, his new (or imagined) passion deeds.
Jealousy often becomes the main reason for parting couples.Women are more comfortable with the jealous half, while men do not tolerate such behavior of his beloved.
catalysts
Jealousy arises, as a rule, due to the existing systems.Someone shy of his appearance, someone - social status, profession, believing himself unworthy of the party for more successful or beautiful partner.This feeling - a direct result of low self-esteem, self-doubt, the habit of dismantling their failures and shortcomings.Therefore, such a woman is constantly afraid that the loved one may at any time, leave it for a more worthy candidate.In other cases, women are caused by jealousy over her selfish and spoiled, a pronounced sense of ownership.The person with a similar character, accustomed to getting everything on the first whim, considers man as a thing that should belong to her and only her.Any attempt to at least half a blink in the presence of another woman severely repressed, resulting in a colossal scandal.These women, being abandoned, as a rule, vengeful and dangerous, and are willing to fight desperately for escape "thing."
Manifestations
question "How to deal with her jealousy?"It becomes vitally important if your woman of gentle and kind is gradually turning into an aggressive "Holmes in a skirt."She arranges a daily audit of your personal belongings, view messages and call logs, organized interrogation.She nervously responds to women's voices in the background during a telephone conversation and invariably accompanies you on all "go out", up to the gatherings in male company.And the slightest manifestation of discontent threatens you her terrible insult, tears flow and punishment in the form of empty pans and piles of dirty shirts.This behavior can be called not only as paranoia and think seriously about how to defeat jealousy lover without compromising your relationship and your own health.
The dangerous jealousy
desperate jealousy does not always mean a deep and strong love.Rather, it is a defense mechanism of personality, aimed at preserving what rightfully belongs to her or caused by fear of a woman to be alone.In addition, women's nature is such that constantly needs to be confirmed senses partner, regular calls and SMS, enduring care and attention.
According to psychologists, slight signs of jealousy in the relationship should always be present.They are not painful for both partners, and there are even pleasant, adding some feelings saturation, passion and taste.However, do not abuse jealousy, otherwise it will turn into a cocktail of aggressive emotions that can poison any relationship.
Worst of all, killing one man sense, women are often still fiercely jealous and a new partner until then, until you realize that it is time to change your character.But get rid of this destructive feeling can not every woman.Your task - as much as possible to help her in this.
How to deal with her jealousy?
Before you blame your woman of excessive jealousy, think about their own behavior and try to put yourself in her place.Perhaps her fears are not groundless?If you are:
- until late at night lost at work, forgetting to warn her about being late for dinner;
- largely do not trust her;
- paid little attention;
- returning from work, eat dinner in silence and flops onto the couch, closer to the TV, forgetting to ask his beloved as her day;
- to look at the pretty girls;
- not give flowers and gifts;
- no scribbling passionate SMS and do not call several times during the day;
but with all its distractions and incorrect actions still love it - causes jealousy your lover lies in you and your strange behavior.
more care and attention
If you are filled with determination to maintain the relationship, regardless of whether overly jealous of your passion or reason for everything - you, the first thing to do - to surround his girlfriend, wife anxious attention, touching concern, stepping over his restraintand principles.E-mail messages and call her at least three times a day, since it is necessary for her peace of mind, and, therefore, for your.Give her flowers, often say compliments, told that it is unique and unrepeatable.Encouraged by your love, she will gradually forget about their fears and blossom right before your eyes.
Less views on both sides
Train yourself not to look at the beauties with his legs from the ears in the presence of his jealous passion.Because you can calmly contemplate the feminine charms, while alone or with friends.And in any case, do not flirt with her friends.Girlfriend, according to the woman - the first who topped the list of potential mistresses of her partner.Friend, despite the notorious female friendship, in the shower - a rival.They are always, even unconsciously, trying to prove to each other their superiority by factors such as appearance, social status, self-realization and personal life.
zeal to her friend in many cases it is justified.Competition among the fair sex in rare cases can reach that one of them, trying to prove that it is better, more beautiful and sexier girlfriend really becomes the mistress of her husband.Therefore, for the sake of peace, a better grasp of their female friends jealous lover as far as possible.
Straight Talk
Elimination of jealousy often promote frank and confidential discussions between the partners.Share it with as much information about yourself and your business, ask for advice, an active interest in her life.Try to convince your woman in her feelings and loyalty.Prove to her that there are no grounds of jealousy.Try not to cheat her, because even false identity is able to ignite the fire of distrust.Introduce lover with all his friends and colleagues, showing that you have nothing to hide from her.
You should not
- not need to yell at her and blame excessive suspiciousness.
- Ignore calls and SMS.
- specially to stay at work to annoy her.
- Defiantly looking at other women, and flirt with them.
- punish coldness and silence.
- Praise partner at her friends.
- reproach and indicate its complexes and disadvantages.
Before seeking effective methods of how to deal with her jealousy, a sober assessment of their own behavior.If you're still sinless, but she too jealous, do not rush to search adequate replacement.It is better to try to eliminate this destructive feeling of the beloved souls and save your relationship.
