Probably, almost everyone in my life experienced disappointment.In humans, in animals, in itself ... In these periods of life you want to withdraw into himself, with no one to talk to and no one to trust.However, to do so is strictly prohibited, otherwise the usual disappointment in people can result in a real depression.About what to do and how to live, referred to in the article.
becomes wise
Whenever a person is disappointed in others, it brings him some experience.It is due to last accumulated wisdom.If the disappointment was more or less reasonable and not far-fetched, then in the future, people will most likely not prevent similar situations will not make the same mistakes.
main thing in this case, to the disappointment was not clinical.Otherwise, people will never be able to trust people, and that is bad.Then it will be useless to speak of wisdom and life experience, and you can only send a disillusioned psychologist.However, a case can really be called a clinical, if the feeling of emptiness and dissatisfaction surrounding lasts a long time, not a couple of days or weeks.
Why is this happening
disappointment in men can occur for many reasons.The most common are listed below:
- Betrayal.When betrays people - it hurts.And that leads to disappointment.And well, if the "object of dislike" will be just the same traitor, and that in fact can creep in and the idea that all men are bastards, and nobody can be trusted.Everything depends on the scale of human meanness.
- Treason.It's the same betrayal, but because of the fact that it takes place not just friends, and your loved one, people react to change more rapidly.Most often disappointed in potential "soul mate" and then afraid to start a relationship.
- lie.Lies, especially large ones, perceived, again, as a betrayal.The difference, of course, there is, but the meaning is the same: we are aware that we have a long time deceived, disappointed in a particular person, and then, perhaps, altogether cease to trust people.
- unjustified expectations.This is the main reason;from it come all of the above, and many others.Any frustration is due to the fact that man is too hopes for something.He builds (in the head) illusion arising not from the real state of affairs, and from his own imagination, so it is no surprise that they fall like a house of cards, leaving the dreamer with nothing.
How to survive disappointment
After another denunciation of human vices, committing indecent acts and other unpleasant situations comes to mind is quite understandable question: how to survive disappointment in others?It seems that everything around it, such as the type of person that does not live up to your expectations.In fact, this is certainly not the case.
only way to survive disappointment - anytime, including in people - to understand, to forgive and reconcile with the idea that the world is no one / nothing is perfect.Without this, no way.Only the awareness of the futility of trying to find a man without a single lack can help get rid of the frustration now and do not allow similar situations occur in the future.However, the last in more detail below.
How not to be disappointed in people to further
tips provided below, tell us how to learn to avoid feelings of frustration over unfulfilled expectations of the people.
- Firstly, stop idealizing others.The perfect man is impossible to find, so do not even try.
- Secondly, the need to be tolerant of other people's opinions and thoughts.Disappointing in man only because of his musical, political or other preferences stupid.
- Third, you must try to forget about the person you are disappointed and do not judge it by other people.Not least because that is absolutely identical people simply did not happen.
- Fourth, can not be seen at all nearby enemies.After the disappointment seems as if everything bad, but it is not.
- Fifth, the need to listen to other people.Then, in the future will not have disagreements and cries from the "rival" in the style of "I've already told you about something, what are your claims ?!" and so on. N.
- Sixth, you can not assign to more peoplehope.The less you expect from a man of something, the less chance of disappointment in the future.Treat others the way they deserve, and do not expect them.
statuses and statements of disappointment in people
One sometimes wants to show his pain.Then something about the status frustrated people can be very useful, so do not complain to everyone you meet, yet to tell others about what's going on in the shower.Another reason for their use is the ability to turn the situation into a joke, or to look at it with new eyes.This does not help the mostly ordinary status, and wise sayings about disappointment in man.They not only help deal with the pain, but also think about the future in which you can avoid similar mistakes.
- dog - man's best friend.Do not betray, do not fail, support in difficult times and never disappoint.
- Oh, the wedding.Women marry out of curiosity, and men marry out of boredom.The result is that both sides are severely disappointed.
- The more you experience disappointments in life, the less you believe in the existence of deserving people.
- main thing - never have to wait on others.And then do not have to be disappointed in people.
- not solitude attracts me.I just do not want to once again get acquainted with someone not to experience another disappointment.
- There is a charm to nobody to love.Do not be disappointed.
So now that you know a bit more about this feeling, you will be able to avoid it in the future.Treat people easier - and life will become easier.
