particularly acute loneliness felt in adolescence.Growing person starts more critical of themselves and others, their expectations and requirements vary.And the problem is: "I have no other" becomes painful.How to help your teen cope with loneliness?What are the words to find?
If your son or daughter says, "I have no other," for him or her, it means "I feel bad."Try to be as attentive to the child during this period.Talk to him as much as possible, not only to teach, but try to understand.Be sincere, share your thoughts and feelings, memories of how you grew up, what was important to you then.Alas, more often a teenager is not recognized for their problems, and prefers to wear a.Nevertheless, there are certain signals.A smart parent or teacher will notice them and try to help.
First categorically avoid criticism!Remember that any remarks perceived with hostility because they hurt the already delicate immature soul.In adolescents, very shaky self-esteem, he is only looking for yourself and your place in this world.Therefore, if the words: "I have no other," you respond criticism ("He's not, because you're smart enough ...., good, handsome, kind, try") and similar texts - be sure you have contact with a childlost forever.Do not think that your comments will help him to correct the deficiencies that he will get better.This is one of the biggest mistakes parents.On the contrary, praising the teenager as often as possible, gives him confidence in his abilities and attractiveness.In search of approval and recognition of children increasingly go into virtual reality, in communion with those who are just lonely and unhappy.Not receiving praise and understanding in the family and at school, they start to look for them in different companies, are not always reliable and good-minded.
Also, remember and about how sometimes envy the young creatures look at those peers who they seem to be more mature, successful, beautiful.For the girl thought, "I have a friend" is often closely linked to the example of friends who have long been there guys.It is during adolescence because I want to be better than others, to be attractive and admired.There is nothing to be ashamed of - this is a normal process of self-assertion and identity formation.
important for the teenager and then a man's best friend, whether he knows how to make it real, do not try to change.Finding support from peers, they seek to communicate with the older, adults.It also raises a kind of "prestige" of the teenager in his eyes and in the opinion of classmates.It's very important to keep talking to children about interpersonal communication.It is necessary to teach them to understand themselves, to listen to your inner voice.And differs from the present superficial.Man-one for girls are often not so much the one with whom you can share your most secret, who can be trusted, and one with whom the party wants to show what you can "boast" to classmates jealous.And it is also a normal stage of formation and development.So do not rush to blame the teenager that he does not understand people.Try to understand it and create a confidential atmosphere.Only in this way can help him through this difficult period.
