That man - a social being, prove unnecessarily.Even the most finished introvert sometimes if you do not want to talk, so at least stay in the community for someone to feel someone's support, or at least understanding and empathy to the processes that are happening in the soul.However, more and more people in our technogenic age suffer from loneliness and wondering why I have no friends?We live, we are not on a desert island, all around - a lot of people and call another no one ... And let us, for starters, let's ask ourselves: who is this "friend", and how it differs from a "friend" and "friend."
Rather, each of us once in my life, but had the experience of friendship (successfully or not - is another question).Remember that distinguishes that person from others?First, you have sought to communicate mutually.You always had something to say to each other.And you're not afraid to share with this person their most secret thoughts, not afraid that will ridiculed or rejected by with contempt.Secondly, you are also motivated by a desire to help his friend: you are deeply sympathize with all its misery and joy.And, most importantly, it feels as it really is, that is not tried to "treat" and educate.You gave advice and do not impose their views, as well as was expected of him just friendly advice and tips, not orders and morals.Now it's time to move on to the question of why someone is full of friends, and I have no real friends?
stupid to blame yourself that we do not have "authority" who are friends.It is foolish to blame others for what they indifferently pass by you, and do not want to see what a wonderful person you are.Yet, the answer to the question about why I have no friends, lies in the plane of interpersonal communication you and your surrounding society.A person with 100 friends, is not afraid to open up to others.In this sense, we can say that the friendship - it is really risky.But as they say, nothing ventured, that no one with whom to drink champagne.
Believe me, there are people in your community that you without interest.Only, perhaps, few among them are so persistent and patient to tolerate your "sniffing spiny hedgehog".
Perhaps your isolation has its foundation: the betrayal of the former so-called friends may negate the credibility of the entire human race.However, if someone gave you, that does not mean that the other person will do the same, and betrayal - is not a reason to say, "I do not have more friends."If you - an introvert, you're less likely to suffer from loneliness, but your inner world does not suffer if you let the other person go.Start a blog and write down your experiences and interesting ideas - with time you will necessarily virtual "buddylist" which - who knows?- May become real friends in real life.
«Who loves - the love" - sung in the famous song.The answer to the question about why I have no friends, often lies in the unwillingness or inability to love.You want to share their feelings, to tell of the hardships, but terribly boring to listen to someone else's tales of sores and family vicissitudes of the little-known people?Try to relate to people, not as a means to pour out his soul, but as to the other world, the unknown and very interesting.
Suppose you have just the opposite case: you really love to delve into someone else's life, I love to hear stories about other people and comment on who was right and who is fundamentally wrong.For all your sociability and desire to endow the other wise advice (because you already know life!), Very soon you will start to feel the vacuum around him in bewilderment and ask yourself: why do I not have friends?Friendship is based on respect for the other as a person.Let's not advice at every opportunity, but only if people are really asking them.Does not teach without moralizing, and in any case do not manipulate people.
