He invited her to drink coffee, and before her eyes flashed a registry office, two children and a joint retirement ... There is a type of girls that every potential cavalier see the love of his life.Men such a strong commitment scares, and they quickly Retiro.How to relax, let go of the situation and stop taking every attempt to meet, as a chance to finally get married?
Why am I?
Outset we are not talking about a girl of eighteen, that excessive amorousness not only forgiven, but put "age", and on the already fully adult and accomplished young ladies who are not stuck to each little bit of a suitable beau "rush".
This behavior is often due to imposed stereotypes - when a girl has all the standard norms, "it's time" to change the status to "married."Yes, all around look with pity, and just do not feed the candy, whispering behind my back that "already have to babysit the children, and she still did not even married!" And rolled her eyes in horror.Here willy-nilly, you start to worry about their feminine destiny.
Here and begin the beautiful, accomplished and successful hopefully treat every man, pay attention to them, for suitability as a husband.Also, often too fast to make plans for the future are beginning to ladies tend to idealize potential second halves, "dorisovyvaya" missing qualities in your mind, and falling in love with the image coined.
are afraid of men?
Men - There is quite wayward and freedom.They intuitively feel the very moment when they are trying to grab "claws" firmly and skillfully avoided because of the horrifying "collar" in the form of a simple family happiness.
Here is some typical female mistakes that are "alarm bell" for the strong half of humanity, signaling that their precious freedom is under threat:
• to make plans for many years to come
Joint life has not yet begun,in fact, full relations innocent flirtation and a couple of meetings is difficult to name - and the lady already enthusiastically making plans for the future, dreams of indulging in a luxurious wedding dress, country house near the lake, quiet family dinners and wonderful golden-haired kids.Especially recklessly share similar plans with a man.Although, even if not to share - it always feels like a "loop begins tightened around his neck" when a new passion will take it as their own.
• Take the initiative
Some girls are so afraid to miss unexpectedly had fallen on their heads joy in the face of newfound fans that begin to "steer" the relationship without giving the man a chance to prove himself.Arrange a meeting with him and surprises themselves scheduling appointments - in general, to actively take the initiative, it is not thinking about the fact that this man, so - conqueror, a format of relations is absolutely not interesting unless it gigolo.
• Require displays of affection
arises whether the girl with compliments, or openly demands the recognition of eternal love - and, in another way, it only pushes the man creating him the impression that he is forced to love and admire, against his will.
• assailed with questions
where, with whom and how was his day, which he ate for lunch, he met with, oh yes, do not forget to scold him for what goes on the street without a scarf.If a man is looking for a mummy - this option can still work.Otherwise, attempts to totally control his life, and even make a scene of jealousy on every occasion, and sometimes without him, unequivocally cause rejection, especially in the first phase relationship when the man still did not believe that a new passion has anyrights to it.
• sets conditions
Forcing marry, meet my mother, make babies, you name it, placing an ultimatum: "not in my opinion - good-bye, I'm sorry," an unusually meaningless exercise if you want to keep this man.Threatening parting - even a very stupid move.In the initial stages of the relationship a man that did not scare, he will even be happy to get rid of unnecessary problems in the face of hysterical passion.However, we do not advise to do so and subsequently, may release ...
What to do?
• Relax
only become happy and relaxed, regardless of whether you have at the moment a man or not, you can be interested in, hold, and most importantly - to make happy a potential life partner.
• Love yourself
you are a woman - an expensive gift, which will be able to deploy only man worthy of you.To inspire confidence and to take such a position is possible only truly love yourself.Understand - you are unique.Stop talking about yourself in a pejorative tone, justified in response to compliments, dig in its heels, just to please someone.Broadcast calm self-confidence, men are sure to be noticed and appreciated.
• Enjoy life
Interests and hobbies fill our lives, making it bright and colorful, giving us emotions, allowing you to enjoy life - no matter the status of single or you are building a relationship.Do not give up their own interests, to devote herself to the man - the victims no one will appreciate.It is better to learn to enjoy your own company.
• Develop
perfecting the body and soul, you get a chance to start to involve men in your life "to the next level."Yes, and you are no longer the most suitable "anyhow a" after you invest in their own development and improvement so much time and effort.As soon as you become completely externally and internally to grow, and will increase your self-esteem that will make you an interesting and desirable in the eyes of men.
• Do not be afraid to lose
no need to frantically clinging to the relationship if you realize that they are far from ideal and that is not glued.Rejecting the "nedootnosheny" you get a chance to try again - with another man.
Do not waste your time on the first available options, your love and care worthy of only one man who will be able to conquer your heart is true, men's actions.Allow yourself to be feminine, you provoke a man to seek the moment when he will be able to call you my own.
Articles Source: resnichka.ru
