Can there be real strong friendship between a man and a woman?Surely this question frequently asked by students sitting at the desk!Since they can not understand that kind of feeling, causing increased interest classmate or classmates.Is Friendship?Love it?
Time passes, and they become best friends and start to believe in the friendship between a boy and a girl, a man and a woman.They are happy people because they have not yet realized the law of attraction.They still do not realize that stretches plus to minus and minus to plus.What a bad stretches to good and good to bad.With much of the world is based on the energy metabolism.With everything in life complement each other, and these add-ons, and energy metabolism, usually negative in comparison.
Friendship between man and woman - in any case, the concept of relative, as they heterosexual beings.And thrust to each other can take place only on the background of sympathy.Woman is weak and fragile, it can be another man, because friendship is considered a key element of support in difficult times, but as a woman can support the one in whom subconsciously, potentially sees a defender and the father?
How can a man in a woman see each other?
He especially feels the smell, assesses appearance, subconsciously it is for him a sexual object, the female in the herd.And if it is thus a good, if they do take possession of the animal instincts, and she becomes the prey in his eyes.Of course, he can talk to her about the sublime and beautiful, ignore the call of the flesh, to convince yourself that it is only friendship.For the time being ...
There is a science - psychology of relationships.It considers the various forms of human relations, including the most interesting for us - sexy.
sexuality refers to any relationship between a man and a woman, in which matters of sex partner relations.
That is, even a business relationship can be sexual if the perception of the person as an employee or a boss is mixed with its perception as the carrier of their gender, ie,men or women.In fact, this is the most common form of business relationship between a man and a woman.At the same time partners in this form of sexual relations is unlikely to seriously going to sleep or have sex with each other.
From the standpoint of science, the friendship between man and woman is one of the newest forms of sexual relations.
First, let us remember what is expressed same-sex friendships.
- Friends talk to each other because they have common interests.'m wondering the same thing or they are interested in doing something together: collecting stamps, discuss serials, fighting with wooden swords and the like
- Friends trust each other. They are not afraid to show each other "is not in the suit," because they know that one starts to humiliate the other.They did not write his notebooks or memory purchased each other rolls or beer.
- Friends do not consider each other "obligated." They do not make a scene, if one throws a party or a barbecue, while the other says that he can not or does not want to go on it.Or if one said to the other that he could not in some way to help.Not being able to and does not want to - a right that recognizes each one after the other.
- Friends do not envy each other. success one gets the misfortune of others.Moreover, usually friends genuinely happy fortunes each other.
- Friends feel the connection. nature of this connection, they can not explain, but it's something that our ancestors called the word "bond".This relationship is related and family and marital ties, but still different.
- At friends - separate lives. Lovers plan his life with an eye on each other and counting on "joint".Friends live by themselves.This does not mean that they can not be about something to negotiate.
- Friends communicate regularly. only constant communication supports their relationship.Otherwise, it is, alas, disappears.
This is a classic, same-sex friendships.The same is true for friendship, men and women, with the additional condition that one or both of them want another, but for whatever reason, are not going to have sex.Something similar to the platonic love ...
Writer S. Chekmaev in the book "vezuha" notes that when men and women know exactly what is between them will be nothing, their relationship becomes in a special trust.
That is, intersexual friendship as a form of sexual relationship arises if a man wanted to some woman, he realized that he "does not shine", but he was so interested in her more as a person, that he decided to enjoy the ordinarycommunicate with her.Gradually link in this communication is growing, and there is friendship with all its attributes, including "one always helps."
friendship between a man and a woman is a totally different energy color - friends is nice to be in each other's cheeks turn pink, the exchange of energy, only without explosion, leads the catalyzing loving process - this does not occur, the relationship maintained smoothlyand touching, and moving them to the stage of love is often a surprise to one of the participants of this tandem.Note, for one!
Then it turns out, as a rule, the second was already long and hopelessly in love , and agreed to be the other, or even consciously played the role, not to be denied right to be necessary to have at least as to communicate with the object ofpassion.If this is the students, the young man and the girl, the love is usually the first.
But if people are coming of age, it is much more likely to have a situation with accuracy "the opposite» - female friend, seeing his chief or patron of the perfect man in the world, but he, because of the myriad of proposals, it is notHe perceives it as a sexual object.
There is also the friendship between a married man and a married woman , where the fortress of friendship depends only on their moral principles and the relationship with his half.Such a relationship, of course, will sooner or later lead to the bed, because their families can not always all be perfect, and if both of them for a long time tend to be of different sexes friendship means not dopoluchaet some human warmth in the family.
And finally, there is a third subspecies of friendship between man and woman - is when they were lovers , parted, but it turned out that they did not want to lose the peace, or business communication, which they have built up in the pair - and leftfriends.In this case, the friendship is just quite stable, because the heterosexual friends have already arrived there, where all try to get rest!
course, the friendship between a man and a woman like any other, sooner or later ends.And just because one acquires a permanent family or partner.Lost common interests and hobbies.But between them is always warm and respect for each other.And this is more important than any prejudice and moralization of society.
Such a relationship - a relationship of two adult persons, who themselves choose comfortable communication style.Communication, which brings warmth and joy in relationships with each other.Communication, which fills life with colors and harmony.Which do not adjust to the framework adopted by the company in the hope of being correct and no different from what is accepted.
Articles Source: psychology.at.ua
