Sacrifice ... What do you have of that word?Of course, self-denial for the sake of high ideals, heroism, saving lives and standing on guard of moral values, altruism and generosity.It is difficult to argue with.But is self-sacrifice - a sincere return, if you can call it morality and greatness of soul?Or is it a false and useless chivalry?Try to understand.
Slavic mentality
great writer and honorary academician of Leo Tolstoy, who lived in the XIX century, once said that the sacrifice - it is the most hurtful form of selfishness.Being a wise philosopher, he knew what he says.Tolstoy drew attention to the Slavic mentality: from birth each of us laid the desire to devote his life to higher goals.By nature we are not individualists.In addition, the Slavic countries, encouraged and nurtured from childhood desire to sacrifice themselves: the good of our neighbor country, ideas.
clear that self-sacrifice during the war is justified.If not for the exploits of our forefathers during the Second World War, it is not known what the problems and troubles would expect our nation.As far as self-sacrifice for the sake of a loved one, many also consider it a sign of good taste.About children, you can not even remember: there is a perception that a woman is simply obliged to put their lives on the altar of the children's whims and desires.Although both can grow up happy, knowing that someone close has to suffer from it.
basis sacrifice
accepted that the foundation of the character traits, behaviors and beliefs is love.Like, a deep sense of pushing us to feats: I want to devote themselves gratuitously significant other, children, and in some cases even colleagues and beloved work as a whole.But psychologists say that it is a myth.The problem of self-sacrifice is that it is based absolutely unattractive - it is uncertainty and fear.
Doubting man feels within himself the power, strength, toughness.Such an individual thinks that by itself it is not capable of reputable deeds, so begins to live the achievements and problems of other people.In addition, he is confident that being a loser, not even worth the indulgence of society.As a result, he begins to fight for the location of loved ones, while pulling up their sleeves trump card - a sacrifice which becomes an instrument of manipulation.The fear is there because of the fear of losing a loved one.
Selfishness - the starting point
The saddest thing in this story is the following: the further you delve into the maze of self-sacrifice, so much the worse for you.The consequences can be tragic even.Look around - around the many examples: adult children, much patronized by parents, do not call them for months, and wives, who gave up a career and socializing with her friends for the care of a loved one, are abandoned by their husbands or end of life suffer betrayal.Do not rush to condemn the traitors, because in this situation to blame only yourself.
ingratitude is close to the main problem of self-sacrifice.The arguments that you hear from people are indisputable: "Who asked you?" And they will be right.You no begged to give up their own interests and desires, the choice made by you.Accusing, such as the inability to establish the child's private life because of the eternal worries about it, think about what you do not transfer on his shoulders responsibility for their own mistakes and failures in dealing with the opposite sex.That's why self-sacrifice - pure selfishness.A man goes as it is convenient and profitable, without thinking about whether it was his family.
evil generation
If sacrifice is happening at the level of the individual family or collective, not its devastating scale of such global.When the interests of the vast powers are affected, the people or a large group of people, the consequences could be very unfavorable.The problem of self-sacrifice, the arguments which are aimed at the protection and preservation of an object, often form the basis of terrorism.For those who are undermining himself and the hostages, sincerely believe that dying for the sake of religion.
very clearly and precisely this logic can be seen in the actions of terrorists that are Muslims.Members of the organization "Hamas" and "Hezbollah", for example, killing hundreds of people, do not feel guilty.Like, they make a sacrificial act for which will be rewarded in the next life.Already only of these examples, we can conclude that self-sacrifice - it's not always a good thing.Sometimes it can lead to tragic events and many innocent victims.
Types sacrifice
Many psychologists believe that such an act is capable of not every person.According to some scientists believe, by inheritance passed sacrifice.This means that the desire to dedicate his life to others laid at the genetic level.Contributes and education: a child who grew up in a family where the mother gives all the money to charity, according to a model of proper behavior, as it is not faced with the opposite.Generates worldview and collective brainwashing, which is often seen in the religious sects or other communities.
Regardless of the source, and sacrifice is a conscious one that works on a subconscious level.The first is to understand the person of the victim and the price for it, meaning and ultimate goal.The soldier, falling chest on an enemy pillbox, in the last seconds of life knows that his act of saving his comrades from certain death.Such a sacrifice is worthy of respect, it is truly heroic.With regard to the unconscious, it is exactly the situation that we have mentioned.Unjustified, useless self-sacrifice becomes a trap, where addictive person who is trying to manipulate his behavior and wants to stop the development of the individual at a comfortable level for him.
Sacrifice literature
Many Russian writers as true Slavs, often affect this theme in his works.Examples of self-sacrifice can be traced, for example, in the works of Dostoevsky.Heroines of his novel "Crime and Punishment" Sonia Marmeladova Dunya Raskolnikov sacrifice themselves for dear people.The first trade body, a family earning a livelihood.She suffers, but has no right to even banal suicide, as the closest left without a piece of bread.The second is going to marry an unloved, but a rich man, but to help the poor brother.
Maxim Gorky often describes the case of self-sacrifice.For example, in the "Old Isergil" it is the epitome of Danko.Romantic hero, leading the men through the woods and tore his chest and took out the heart, illuminating him like a torch, a path in the darkness.The supporters followed him, and overcome the hard way.Danko died, and people quickly forgot his hero.The question arises whether it was self-sacrifice?Think about it before throwing their own dreams and aspirations at the feet of another person.
