Mikhail E. Litvak - PhD and renowned psychotherapist, conducted research in a meaningful simulation of emotions, intellectual nirvana, oratory techniques to develop out of disputes and conflict situations in the family and at work."Psychological Aikido" is also one of them developed techniques successfully implemented in the practice of counseling families, administrators, businessmen and executives.
method of psychological aikido
In controversial situations where you need to exercise common sense and peace of mind when you need to convince "the enemy" and to make sure that he does not feel offended, but willingly follow your position, the tactics "psychological aikido"It works particularly effectively.
Aikido fighter falls in the direction in which it pushes the enemy.At the same opponent he drags a little energy - and he is at the top, using the power of his opponent.Psychological principle of Aikido is based on the same - on the depreciation, but only in communication.If you are pushed to the heights, that is imposed on the fall, then you will initially depreciate, trying to extinguish the effects of shock, and then gets to his feet.
Basics of psychological aikido
Psychological Aikido is the most flexible and effective tactics of resolving disputes and conflicts.In particular, if the opponent has resistance.Before you attack the enemy, you need to pay off the resistance, that is, remove the object and his desire to prove.It is necessary to arrange it to yourself, do accept and understand and then you can start reassurance.So says psychotherapist Litvak."Psychological Aikido" based on clearly and quickly with credible arguments convincing.Well, if you are using their objections metaphors and truisms.Your speech should be beautiful and long.Various deceptive moves and tricks to be cleverly disguised.You need to destroy your opponent's position is flexible and technically, a smooth transition to his proposal.
That is psychological aikido does not imply a complete rejection of the position of the opponent, initially you support it, and only then proceed to his weighty arguments.As a result, you not only gain the upside over the enemy, but also to strengthen your relationship with him.This is another conclusion which did psychotherapist Litvak ME"Psychological Aikido" eliminates conflict, tension and irritation in communication.
at work and at home quite often there are situations when conflicts develop in the same scenario, and you can anticipate how to behave partner in a particular case.This knowledge can also be used in the method of "psychological aikido" for preventive amortization.Carnegie announced this device as "Tell Me about what was going to tell your accuser, and you deprive it sails the wind!" Carry out preventive amortization and at work.It's enough to go to your boss and tell him his mistakes, without waiting for his critics.
